It's simply the fact that you can't think for yourself. If anyone has a query or a problem, they go running to the elders to ask them to make their decision for them. They take away your free choice and, whilst you are deeply involved with WT stuff, you don't realise what they are doing. It is only when you take a few steps back and look at the organisation from the outside, you realise what is going on.
They want to control what you wear, read, watch (TV & films), how you treat non-JW family & friends, your opinion, your associates, where you work, your education, your recreation, basically EVERYTHING. They bog you down with petty rules and regulations and make you so weary that you don't have the energy or desire to even think for yourself. They fill your week up with meetings, ministry, preparation for meetings, family studies, outside Bible studies, personal study, just study study study!
The weird thing is, they insist all the above is good for you. If you struggle, it's because you are weak and need to study more. If you get depressed, you aren't studying enough. If you really get sick of the whole shabang, you were obviously neglecting your personal Bible study and never really developed a meaningful, personal relationship with Jehovah. They do exactly what Jesus accused the Scribes and Pharisees of doing -they bind men down with heavy loads - what a bunch of hypocrites.
Control freaks, the lot of them!
xxR