Posts by losingit

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My parents

by mzmmom in

my heart aches because of the wall i have had to build around myself.

this ache is easier to handle than the ache i would suffer if i ever went through the situation again.

i just can't do it.

losingit

Hopefully thngs will resolve themselves soon. I am sorry you are feeling this pain.

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3 years of study, Just found out!

by impala63rag in

jw
friends

hello friends, .

i would like some advice from those that are inpartial, and are familiar with the teachings of jw.

i studied with a wonderful jw couple weekly for 3 years.

losingit

Wish I had escaped it too. Good luck to.you now that you know the real deal. Live your life `and move away from anything JW.

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does it even matter?

by losingit in

jw
friends

i am thinking of sending a simple fb message to all of the jws i know.. "jwfacts.com" with the tag line, "you're in a cult.".

my motivation?

i am disturbed about the fact that these people that pretended to be friends look at me with a negative eye and have no clue as to how they abandoned my girls and i in a desperate time of need over the course of this past year.

losingit

Excellent Fernando. The bridges are burned, but there are still a few embers remaining. It seems like every time I have a horrific experience with my girls' father, I immediately think of these jws. I think of all of the lies I was told by him and his jw crew. I think about how I was lured in thru love bombing, how false it all was.

As far as being labeled a mentally diseased apostate, I don't really care. I'm out, have been out for months now. But for me, how disturbing it is that a friend that wasn't even baptized, one that I turned to for emotional support unfriended me on fb? I'm just tired of it.... I'm tired of the fact that I'm STILL feeling the effects of their lies in my life. Why should they have the last word, if it's based on lies?

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does it even matter?

by losingit in

jw
friends

i am thinking of sending a simple fb message to all of the jws i know.. "jwfacts.com" with the tag line, "you're in a cult.".

my motivation?

i am disturbed about the fact that these people that pretended to be friends look at me with a negative eye and have no clue as to how they abandoned my girls and i in a desperate time of need over the course of this past year.

losingit

I am thinking of sending a simple fb message to all of the jws I know.

"Jwfacts.com" with the tag line, "You're in a cult."

My motivation? I am disturbed about the fact that these people that pretended to be friends look at me with a negative eye and have no clue as to how they abandoned my girls and I in a desperate time of need over the course of this past year. Those that were so close to us that we considered them family have not even bothered to get in contact with my girls... several families, in fact, have chosen to ignore them.

Yes, I know many of you have considered this a blessing in disguise. I do too. However, that's not the point. The point is that these jws are completely lacking in love and have no clue that is how they are. I have even been unfriended on facebook by a girl who is not even baptized! She just grew up in the goddamn cult! Amazing! And I defended her so much to jws, standing up for her whenever they insulted her behind her back. Coward? Hypocrite? I don't know what to make of her move.

But then I think... does it even matter? Should I even bother sending that brief message?

Time and time again, the NON-jws in my life... you know NORMAL PEOPLE... have been there for me and my girls. Time and time again, without fault.

Ultimately, the disparity between the NON jws an jws should be so clear to my girls as they grow older that I hope and pray that they will never be involved with this cult. Even their own father has abandoned them. DF'd jw, but it doesn't matter. Cruelty runs deep in jw blood, and he has definitely inherited that trait.

So, what do you think? Final nail in the coffin? Do I send that brief fb message? Does it even matter?

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Elders School 2013: Model Judicial Committee Videos and messages from the GB

by hildebrando in

for the first time, weve accessed to audiovisual material in spanish, regarding the elders schools.

here is a video of a dramatization of a model judicial committee, in addition to letts introduction (speaking with strange gestures) and comments from anthony morris iii:.

http://hildeydesa.blogspot.com/2014/02/escuela-de-ancianos-2013-videos-de.html.

losingit

You guys would die over how crazy this video is. Makes me sick! The commentary below details the manipulation of the elders to bring a decision to disfellowship. Im sorry, but ifyou're an elder or ever were-- how can u deal with knowing you nflicyed so much manipulation?

Too many nasty horrible memories of the kingdom hall comes to mind by watching this video. Just the room with the map, the chairs, copy machne, the library-- jus horrible . Hopefully someone here can take thetime to.translate.

The pinky ring, ugh! At least the Pope lead an nteresting life!

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The word "fornication" is rooted in Pagan prostitution

by rebel8 in

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friends

future qfr article: is using the word 'fornication' appropriate for christians?.

i'm serious though..

losingit

Great article!

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ugh...now I'm getting mad

by Angus Beef in

venting.... hubby visited with sil (with gotee intact), got the wt don't approve speech and the 'we've been missing you at the meetings".. he gave all the excuses he could for why we weren't there.

i'm at the point of just telling them the truth as why... but we will be giving up our grandchildren.

i just don't know if i can do it, give up the grandkids.

losingit

BigMac-- You're fresh!!!

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How did you tell your spouse you want out of the JW religion?

by leaving_quietly in

what did you imagine would happen?

did they react the way you expected?

how did you bring it up?.

losingit

Lots of late night conversations where we both agreed that we weren't sure we wanted to continue being witnesses. But nothing changed. We still went to the meetings. I'd go to please him and bc of guilt. Towards the end, I stopped going but he continued. It was a battle, really. I think if we had both decided we were done that maybe we would have survived.

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Another elders kid goes down the tubes not to mention he is the monster of cleveland's nephew

by noni1974 in

http://www.19actionnews.com/story/24591538/ariel-castros-nephew-indicted-in-kiddie-porn-case.

i knew him since he was a baby, i remember when he was born.

sad fact is he was a spoiled brat and never disciplined for anything.

losingit

Wait-- he's a jdub?

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Oh My God!!

by ABibleStudent in

yesterday after an awesome workout at the gym i was walking to the front door and i saw my former friend who is a "spiritually strong" (non-thinking) jw walking towards me talking with a trainer.

i thought she was either there on a job interview or was taking a tour of the facilities before joining.. i thought should i say hi, should i say nothing, would she acknowledge me, etc.

i decided to say hi to make sure that she remembered that i am a member of this gym, so that she would not feel uncomfortable it she accepted a job there or joined it.. the gym is about 20 miles from where she lived when i was friends with her, but is in a convenient location between where she was living and where she works.. i said "hi n" about five feet before me, no response.. i said "hi n" a little louder about five feet after they passed me.

losingit

Robert,

She sounds like she was your girlfriend. You liked her enough to study and she liked you enough to ask you to please study. Well, I guess it's a good thing that you moved on. Jws can be difficult as life partners.