I tend to change my mind on this from day to day on what I would do if my family was to stop shunning me. Some days I think I would be so happy that I would forget all of the past like some reversed "Prodigal Son" scenario were the joy of the moment melts away all of the anger and pain. Some days I think that I would be prudent and wise to put them through the same rigorous and protracted re-instantement procedure that the JW put the DF'ed members through to make sure they will not do it again.
Over the weekend, my uncle who is a JW, passed away. I only found out about it last night and not directly from my family. I am not invited to the funeral. And, my attempts to reach out to convey condolences and help have been rebuffed.
So, today, I am struggling on which way I would go if the rules changed.