((((((((((legion and wife))))))))))
PLEASE get some counseling for your wife! My JW neighbor was suicidal, and I think that talking with someone else (even me, a non-JW) and finding that people CAN care about her unconditionally kept her from going closer/over the edge. .
Her talking of suicide is a real plea for help. If she doesn't work and is alone all day, she can work herself down deeper. If she works all day and it sits in the back of her mind, unaddressed, she is still at great risk when it all comes out.
Call around to counselors and see if any of them have had experience with JWs; let them know she is sensitive about seeing a non-JW. Then tell her that, as her husband, you are directing her to see this specially selected person. Let her know that YOU want her to be around!!! I hope you've done something like this already; congrats if so. Doing nothing means nothing will change for her.
My biggest hugs to your dear wife! I'm pulling for you.
(I do not mean to hijack a thread.)
bebu