Posts by Redneckgurl

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my heart hurts.

by flower in

well i have been feeling a bit like crap lately.

work has been very stressful and my attempts to make new friends outside of the jw's have been mostly futile.

the people i work with are immature and are more interested in the latest office gossip and whose doing what than anything else.

Sorry to hear what I happening to you, please don't think that God is doing this to you sweetie! The Bible even says he does not try us with evil, and having no friends sux! Something I have learned is that no matter where you go, whether it be the Kingdom Hall, another church, a workplace, whatever, wher there are people, there is that kind of treatment of eachother going on. Some places are worse than others, but people are people and they like to gossip and talk..........that's why there have always been so many talks about gossip, and that won't change.

You are going through a cycle of grief and mourning that will pass and then probably come around again someday......you will feel better! Try to get involved in something with the community. My husband joined the volunteer fire dept., and while the gossip and backstabbing is horrible there, it still gives him something to do and be a part of. We have started going out on the weekends to places where kids do not hang out, and have met some great people to see again and again when we go out and are developing friendships with them. Everyone is looking for friends, and you have something about you that someone will want more of! Just keep going...........

and one more thing.....could you be depressed? I can relate to your words when I am feeling depressed. Perhaps a trip to your family doc can help you out a little to get through this. (this is just my opinion based on personal experience)

(((((((((((((((((((A GREAT BIG HUG))))))))))))))))))))))

Redneckgurl

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Witness Costume Parties?

by shamus in

does anyone remember a watchtower saying that costume parties were inappropriate for christians?

i seem to remember that they were labeled in the "deamon" category, even if you had one and it had nothing to do with halloween.. is this true?

does anyone remember this crap?

Redneckgurl

When I was a teenager, the congregation I was in had costume parties in November, you know, keep it close to Halloween so that costumes were easily available! LOL It was a big deal that everyone looked foward to, planned for, and was exciting.....I was always waiting to get my invitation in the mail.

Anyway, I was never invited to them because my parents thought it was a replacement for Halloween, and I was looked down upon as a troublemaker. Then they were banned and my father felt vindicated.........I just looked like him like an ole fuddy dud, and was not happy that he got his way.

Oh, did I mention that only a couple of the teens I grew up with stayed JW's? I used to wonder why, now I wish I joined them sooner!

Just Celebrated Halloween for the first time with my children! It was great! Even Hubby did it for the first time in his life! (I did it till I was 10)

Redneckgurl

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I had to DF my brother a few days ago!

by cyberguy in

i had to df my brother a few days ago!

i just wanted to visit him and my family late december.

anyway, he said, "we don?t want you here!

Redneckgurl

((((((HUGS))))))))

Unfortunately I think I will be in the same position as you soon, I too have a brother and was planning to visit him in the spring in Florida, take the kids to see their cousin, and stay with him. I am almost positive that I won't be allowed in his home once he finds out what I have been up to....(birthdays, halloween, etc.) I don't know how I will tell my children they can not see their cousin there, it will be hard.

Please remember that it will be hard for your family too, even though they might not act like it, they are in pain because of not being able to talk to you. They will put on a front "with strength from Jehovah" and will act like they are mad at you, or that you don't exist anymore, but believe me, they are in pain too, because of what they have been taught. There are others who understand you and will be there for you, perhaps you will find someone who you can be close to and spend time with who will be like family to you. That's what I am trying to do now, make some close friends who will have me and my husband and children over to spend Thanksgiving with!

Take care,

Redneckgurl

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In a tight spot.......and unsure what to do!

by Redneckgurl in

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i have not posted in several months..........way too much emotionally for me to deal with everything, since my family is all "in the truth" and i am the black sheep

well here is my dilemma.........we are going to celebrate halloween with the kids on friday

there are several in the congregation who still call me to do their hair.........i don't want to do it anymore, but don't know how to tell them as many of them are elderly and i love them dearly.......i don't want to hurt them, ya know?

Redneckgurl

District Overbreer,

I know what you are saying, but can't I be disfellowshipped anyway by so blatantly displaying the fact that I am NOT being a good JW? Probably doesn't help that I have lived in this town, grew up here, for the last 20 years. You know, the JW's were my life, I am starting to find new friends, my family and I, people to associate with who are fun and like us for who we are (which is very wierd by the way)

I don't want to ask my dad, the elder about this, it would probably kill him, but I don't know really, if I can get DF'd for being seen doing stuff, even if no one talks to me about it.

Oh, and here's a good one...........in the year that we have not attended meetings.......not 1 elder has come to see us, or even call. One saw us at the store and asked if they could come by sometime and I said yes (regrettably) but they never came!

Thanks for replying so quickly,

K in Texas (houston, actually)

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In a tight spot.......and unsure what to do!

by Redneckgurl in

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i have not posted in several months..........way too much emotionally for me to deal with everything, since my family is all "in the truth" and i am the black sheep

well here is my dilemma.........we are going to celebrate halloween with the kids on friday

there are several in the congregation who still call me to do their hair.........i don't want to do it anymore, but don't know how to tell them as many of them are elderly and i love them dearly.......i don't want to hurt them, ya know?

Redneckgurl

Hi everyone! I have not posted in several months..........way too much emotionally for me to deal with everything, since my family is all "in the truth" and I am the black sheep who stopped attending meetings along with my husband and children since last November! (wow, almost a year!) My father is an elder (with habits to hide) and my mother is depressed and miserable (says she is so happy, whatever) and my little brother is so much like I used to be........in denial...........

Well here is my dilemma.........we are going to celebrate Halloween with the kids on Friday.......we have little jack-o-lanterns in the house, my mother saw them, she freaked, accused me of slapping Jehovah in the face and celebrating Satan's holiday and I heard the usual words that my parents have always said to me "YOU KNOW THAT IS WRONG, YOU KNOW IT" and I politely asked her to not speak to me that way and that I would not discuss it with her. She left all PO'd

There are several in the congregation who still call me to do their hair.........I don't want to do it anymore, but don't know how to tell them as many of them are elderly and I love them dearly.......I don't want to hurt them, ya know?

I feel like I should Disassociate myself for this reason.........to let everyone know and to stop wondering, after all, I am not bitter towards them, and I respect their feelings and don't want to feel like I am leading them on in any way. I really don't want anyone popping in and saying "what is that Xmas tree there for?" I don't want to explain anything, as I feel it does no good anyway. Most of us have been there, you know what I mean.

I am just ready to make the break.........very ready, and I don't want to hear "we miss you" or "when are you coming back to the meetings" or "I know someone else who took a break and they regret it"......I AM NOT JUST TAKING A BREAKlike I am on vacation or something!

Will DAing my self end all of these questions? Will it make it easier for me? After all, I don't want to be disfellowshipped, like it is out of my hands and someone else made the decision for me. Can't I be disfellowshipped for putting Xmas lights in my yard, or for someone seeing me dressed up on Halloween and trick-or-treating with my children? I want to do what I want to do without feeling like I have to hide so I don't get into trouble.............seems I run into Witnesses all the time.

Suggestions for those who can understand? Thank you so much!

K in Texas

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Comment to JW's on latest KH Meeting (Please add your comments!!)

by bk62 in

i again went to the sunday meeting with my wife, in order to "keep abreast" and look for any flaws to exploit.

lo and behold, this was a "special" meeting b/c the "circuit overseer???

" was there to put his spin on things.

Redneckgurl

BK62,

In answer to your question as to the name of God, if it is interchangeable, I am a bit puzzled, but I think you mean, it is okay for JW's to say just "God" instead of "Jehovah"? Well, yes, that is done all the time, but we are also told that "God" is just a title, and we distinguish our God from the god of all other religions (which we are taught is basically Satan the Devil) by using the name Jehovah. There is no set amount of times to use it, in fact, whenever I have spoken with someone who is not a JW and I was trying to preach to them, I hardly used the name Jehovah because I didn't want to confuse them or scare them off. (silly me!) lol

Hope that helped! Oh, and as far as seats, yeah, some people can be really rude! Usually the attendants are too intimidated to say anything since the ones doing the seat hogging can be "stumbled" by being told what to do. (that's my opinion from observation)

Redneckgurl

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Spring 2003

by RAYZORBLADE in

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for those of you residing in the northern hemisphere, there's nothing more satisfying than the onset of spring.

this a.m., after working a long shift at work, i arrive home after 5 a.m., and it's pleasantly mild (i live in toronto) and the sky is partly cloudy.

the moon is no longer full, but still very bright.

Redneckgurl

Every spring I think "no wonder people rejoice at a rebirth at this time of year!" It is so beautiful, so fresh feeling, and naturally I want to display the colors of spring and do spring things. Seems so natural...............part of us, but I guess back in the old days pagans were the only ones to think so...........yeah, right! lol

Redneckgurl

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Is everyone bitter against JW's?

by Redneckgurl in

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i have to post this question, because as i was trying so hard to talk to my husband about what i am learning and what others are saying, he is saying i am not doing this objectively at all, and only hearing things from bitter exjw's who are angry at the org for something.

i say this isn't true, i wasn't searching for answers due to a negative occurance in my life, and i don't believe everyone here was either.

he says i am only emotional about this, and trying to find reasons to prove all the things i have learned as wrong.

Redneckgurl

Wow! Thanks so much for the heartfelt replies! I sat down with my husband last night to read them, I don't know what he thought, he didn't really say, but I feel better myself knowing that the reason most of you are no longer part of the org is because you were searching as I am. Now, I am not saying that I am leaving, yet. I haven't made up my mind, although it is full of questions.. Don't they always say that this religion fills all of the holes? Well, I found some.

Redneckgurl

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Is everyone bitter against JW's?

by Redneckgurl in

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i have to post this question, because as i was trying so hard to talk to my husband about what i am learning and what others are saying, he is saying i am not doing this objectively at all, and only hearing things from bitter exjw's who are angry at the org for something.

i say this isn't true, i wasn't searching for answers due to a negative occurance in my life, and i don't believe everyone here was either.

he says i am only emotional about this, and trying to find reasons to prove all the things i have learned as wrong.

Redneckgurl

Hi! I have to post this question, because as I was trying so hard to talk to my husband about what I am learning and what others are saying, he is saying I am not doing this objectively at all, and only hearing things from bitter exJW's who are angry at the org for something. I say this isn't true, I wasn't searching for answers due to a negative occurance in my life, and I don't believe everyone here was either. He says I am only emotional about this, and trying to find reasons to prove all the things I have learned as wrong.

Well, I am trying to think this out, I thought I was trying to prove that what I had learned my whole life was right! If it is so right, how can I prove it wrong? Can some of you help me with an answer to him? I am sure this would come under the heading "why did you leave?", but I think I need more specifically to know if you are all angry and bitter about something that happened in your life.

Thanks for helping me out!

Redneckgurl

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The Knock at the Door After the Prayer

by stevieb1 in

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this experience is commoly related by jehovah's witnesses:.

a man or woman is desperately searching for "the truth" or someone is about to give up on life but before they do they utter a prayer to god and lo and behold a knock is heard on the door and behind the door are jehovah's witnesses.. these experiences are used by jw's to confirm angelic direction on their work and seems to reinforce in them that they have the "truth".. how does one argue against such personal experience?.

i am no longer a jw and no longer support their organizational teachings by the way, but i'd like to throw out the above question to you all for comment and consideration.. .

Redneckgurl

Here's the problem with these "stories", I agree that every religion has them. A coworker of mine related a personal miracle when she said a prayer because she couldn't afford her father's funeral and when the family walked into the funeral home right after that, the funeral director gave them a huge price break. She said she started crying and praising God. (no, she isn't a JW) Now, with what I have been taught, she must have had her prayer answered by Satan, right? Give me a break! God is listening to ALL of his creation, that is what I believe. I have always felt wierd about not being able to give "my" God the credit for others who had wonderful things happen to them, especially when they are thanking God for it.

Coincidence, or really angelic direction? Who knows for sure? Probably both.

Redneckgurl