I am so sorry to hear about all of this.
Regarding the divorce between you and your X; I had my divorce decree changed when I moved out of state with my sons. They visit him every other Christmas and during the summer months. I don't know if you would want your daughter with your X for the summer months, especially if he associates with your family. But if you do want to move, it might be a consideration.
The best thing I ever did was to completely move away from my family. But my situation is different from your. My X lives near my family, but he isn't a JW and would never make my kids go to the KH. They visit my family on the days that there are no meeting.
((((Essie))) I am so sorry.
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I didn't think my JW family could find another way to hurt me but...
by Ghost of Esmeralda inbut i was so wrong!
my daughter just got home.
you all know i dressed her up, painted her nails, curled her hair, and sent her off to my favorite cousin's wedding.
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im free, im freeeeee!!!!
by kaykay_mp ini got a wonderful b-day present (april 25), besides the acoustic guitar my boyfriend gave me.
it was a week late, though.. friday may 2 i received a general under honorable conditions discharge from the army.
got a cool certificate too.
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hAPPY bIRTHDAY -
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TODAY IS MY ONE YEAR ANNIVERSARY
by jusastudy inhi every one i know a lot of people thought i was a hit and run, but im still around.
i will always be reading, even if i dont post.
today 5-3-03 is my one year anniversary.
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justastudy -- Happy Anniversary!
You sound like you have a very good man. Keep it that way. If you get baptised it could drastically change. And as said above, you will be the one that is considered the "weak" one in JW's eyes.
My husband took my 2 boys as tho they are his own. They now have more respect and love for him than their biological father. If you find a man that treats your children as his own and loves them then how could you ever believe him to be a "bad" man. If you get baptised he will be considered a "bad" man in the eyes of JW's.
Don't ruin your life simply because you found someone to study with, and be friends with. I was brought up a JW, I was baptised at 13. I think it should be absolutely against the law for a child to be baptised. Now, I can't get away from it unless I want cut off from my family.
Gone for over 20 years; but still can't get rid of the disfellowshipment agenda.
If you still feel that they are "the truth" please explain to me completely how it can be "gods way" to disfellowship?
Wishing you happiness and love,
X-JW (but not yet disfellowshipped - if it is ever a come back or lose your family thing - I WILL lose my family. I can NEVER go back to the lies)
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It's my birthday, born May 3, 1956.
by Sadie5 init will be a busy day today, so the kids put together a little celebration for me last night.
the eleven year old baked a cake.
it was chocolate with green frosting and sprinkles.
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Please, everyone, help out a newbie!!
by Fruitcake ini know that there is more love here, than i ever found in my kingdom hall.
i've seen how you all can rally and support one another.
and that is a mark of christ.
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I replied to one of his post. Unfortunately i read it the wrong way - I thought he was supporting DFing and I got pretty upset. Minmus corrected me and I apologized.
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sister Df'd 26 years ago, wants to come back now
by ApagaLaLuz ini have an older sister who is 48. she was a regular pioneer and married a ministerial servant.
26 years ago she was df'd and divorced him.
she had moved away before i was even born.
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Chevy, I agree with Nina. Call her and talk WITH her, tell her you want to know about your big sister. Get to know her. You said you have only talked to her twice in your life? I'm not trying to be mean - but have you been "shunning" her as well. You are able to go to your parents house, she is completely cut off from everyone.
If your sister is 48 and she had moved out before you were born then you are probably in your late 20's or early 30's. So you are still going 100mph. I was the same way. But now I am slowing down, I am over 40 now and it isn't so important now to go 100mph. I don't think it has anything to do with "Over the Hill at 40...50...60" I'm not a "broken down old woman" I am still learning, now I am learning to enjoy what I have, my family etc... It isn't that I didn't love them when I was 25 - 35 yrs. old, it was a fast paced love. We were always doing and going.... Now, I am enjoying them more at a slower pace. We don't have to go to every game everyone else goes to, every movie, every picnic, party..... We can spend a night playing cards as a family, eating out on the back porch, etc.... Your sister is a few years older than I am, but the principal is probably still the same. She is slowing down a little, thinking more of what has passed, realizing that we are not immortal. And being afraid. This is hypothetical, I don't know your sister. But she may just be feeling that in the end that all you have is family. Does she have children? Husband?
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Pondering my mortality
by wednesday ini just saw my doc today b/c i have had overwhelming fatigue and shortness of breath this week.
she thinks i either have congestive heart failure,or a blood clot has formed after my recent surgery, or both.
while i was there the office ast.
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Wishing you the best Wednesday.
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
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Help! Spouse thinks JW religion the most logical
by bittersweet inmy husband and i were discussing what makes some people become jw's last night.
i was saying that if i hadn't grown up in it, i would have never been drawn to it at all.
i'm not a very spiritual person.
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Bittersweet -
I had to order CofC, since i have finally got it, it is very hard to put down. I have only ready about 100 pages of it and have already learned so much.
I try to see the JW side - even tho my father is now dead - i can see him saying that it is one sided by a man that got mad at Jehovah. Some will not realize it for what it is.
But I have become so absorbed in it that I have just been glancing over the forum for the past week or so.
It is a great book. If someone would do the research provided in the book they will see that what Franz says is true. But getting someone to do the research may be a problem.
The "founder of JW's" was an X-Presbyterian and X-Congregational Church member. He decided to create his own religion - "the Bible Student", later known as JW's. TC Russells wife left him - was she disfellowshipped? No. The GB did not come into effect until 1976! even tho the Watchtower had been printing that they had been leading the organization.
I know that a lot of people already know this info. But I am absolutely dumb-founded with all that I am reading. It is incredible!
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It's my birthday, I am mourning my lost childhood.
by aojumper ini am so angry right now, so hurt that my family allowed my brain to be washed and hung out to dry, and then have the nerve to tell me i am on the wrong path.
i wonder how do people let others do this to them?!
i wish i had kept the strength that i remember i had as a very young child and told them all to go to hell!
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Happy Birthday (late) K -
I had my 1st Birthday party, just as Gopher did! last year when I turned 40! Funny, my first birthday is when everyone gives you "over the hill" cards. Oh well, it was still great fun.
My husband gave me a surprise party. When it was over and we came back home he said "Thank God!!!" I ask him why. He said "I have never intentionally lied to you about anything, I have had to lie to you these past few weeks trying to keep this a surprise; It was driving me CRAZY!" I think that was the best present of all.
If you are concerned about your JW family members being offended about a "Birthday" card; send them one that tells them that they are wonderful, there are a lot out there. If it happens to fall around their birthday....... they will know the real reason for it.
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Update
by Bendrr in.
for francois and others who may have been wondering.. my blood test came back clean and believe it or not the pain hasn't come back in over a week now.
the doctor said i could postpone indefinitely the ultrasound but wants me to come in next month for a physical.. mike.
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hope everything stays well.