Posts by Mystery

xena said:i am sorry qadreena but i have never in the 20 some odd years i have been a jw ever heard of an unbaptised publisher being d/aed...marked as bad association yes..but d/a...no...but i guess stranger things can happen.... well that brought it all back.. actually xena the exact same thing happened to my brother in the early 80's.

he was only 14. he'd carried on associating with a friend of his who'd been disfellowshipped.

Mystery

The time always comes - in each and every life - when we finally 'get' it - when in the midst of all our fears and irrationality, the voice inside us cries ENOUGH! Enough fighting, crying, and struggling to just hold on. Sobs begin to subside, we shudder once or twice, blink back the tears, and begin to look at the world through new eyes.

I am glad you contacted your brother. You have another 20 years to make up for it. Get busy making the most of it.

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Just finished uni after 4 1/2 years!!!

by JW83 in

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i started uni doing a ba the year after i left the dubs.

then i got pregnant & married, & still continued ... i have just finished my honours year in history - i did a thesis on why the dubs were banned in australia during ww2.

talk about full circle!

Mystery

Congradulations!!!!

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ExJWs: Get Used To It : THE WATCHTOWER WILL NOT DIE OUT

by steve2 in

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there is a precident for the jws becoming more hard-lined: the exclusive brethren.

prior to 1959 the exclusive brethren, whilst conservative, tended to have a more open outreach and even allowed some fraternizing with non-members.

however, following directions from their leaders in 1959, they suddenly slammed closed the doors, introducing beliefs such as: refusing to eat meals with anyone who was not a member and (this makes me sick) automatically breaking up families if one spouse questioned the authority of the leaders.

Mystery

They prey upon the week and needy. When I was a JW, i was at the grave of a friend's child alone. A JW drove into the graveyard and came over to talk to me. Needless to say I told her that I was a JW and I knew the hope of resurrection blab, blab, blab.

About a year ago, I was making copies at a copy center, my doctor called and told me the situation with my back. I began crying; a lady walks up and asks if she could help. I told her no thank you. She then began talking about God healing all pain and illness. I ask her if she was a JW. "Yes." I replied: "I know he is going to heal all people left after Armageddon and the resurrected ones; but pretty much everyone in this building will be destroyed, right?"

Both times they approached I was upset. They were there to "help", to show "compassion", to show "love" - if they continue this, unfortunately, there will always be members.

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My son just went to the hospital

by Undecided in

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he has been on several pain medications for his back, he is disabled with it.

he was seeing people outside his house that wasn't there.

he saw an alien in his closet and was talking to it and trying to help it cool down, he was hot himself.

Mystery

Wishing your son and your family the best. I am glad to hear he is doing OK.

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Time was when we would just have taken you out and killed you...'

by Mystery in

sounds like what my jc told me.

'you know, we are being loving here.

time was when we would just have taken you out and killed you...' .

Mystery

Thank you for your replies.

My dad was an elder, but i don't ever remember that statement being made to anyone or from a speaker. Maybe it is just selective memory. I have been thinking about this at work all morning and simply can't understand how my father could have ever believed all of this garbage and could have subjected me and sister and brother to it. How could he have EVER believed this crap??!!! He was a very intelligent man, a mastermind at math, owned and ran his own business. How could he have agreed with this?

I knew that as far as being disfellowshipped it is "as if you are dead"; but to tell someone "in the past we would have taken you out and stoned you....."

I thought i was getting past all of this, but this entirely blew me away.

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Time was when we would just have taken you out and killed you...'

by Mystery in

sounds like what my jc told me.

'you know, we are being loving here.

time was when we would just have taken you out and killed you...' .

Mystery

Sounds like what my JC told me. 'You know, we are being loving here. Time was when we would just have taken you out and killed you...'

In a different thread ( What? So Korah gets rez now? What about me? I'm an apostate too.... ) Jeanniebeanz & tijkmo said that they were both told this.

Has anyone else been told this? Is anyone stunned about this as i am? Is the WTBS subliminally talking about killing apostates/themselves? I can't help but think of the "Would you drink the Kool-Aide" theory as well.

Have others been told the same as jb & tijkmo?

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Mates that trash the other parnter in front of the children

by frankiespeakin in

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how do you feel about it when a formally together couple split up and one of them talks really bad about the other to the children just to get the kids on thier side and to turn them against the other in revenge to sooth hurt feeling?

Mystery

I left my husband when my sons were 3 & 4.

I did not trash my ex in front of my sons.

He, however, played mind games with them and trashed me at every opportunity.

My sons would get mad at me and tell me that they were going to live with their dad and that there was nothing i could do to stop them. I would tell them that it was their choice and that they had a decision to make.

Now they are 16 & 17; they now understand why I left him, not by me telling them but due to the way he trashed me and to the many times he has let them down.

Don't get me wrong, it was very hard at times to keep my mouth shut. Especially when promise after promise he made to them was broken over and over and over again. I would just say to the boys "i am sorry" and then go to the bedroom, beat up my pillow and tell the pillow what a sorry a** M*********** ..... ..... ..... he is.

They know it now - i didn't have to say a word.

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New to site - letting it out

by jimakazi in

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it is interesting to read the comments of so many who are no longer "in the truth".

i have not associated for 18 years but as my parents are still very much "in the truth".

i never disassociated myself as i feel to do so is to acknowledge some form of official status over me.

Mystery

Welcome Jimakazi to the forum.

(Sorry for the triple post - my kitten decided to attack the keyboard)