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  Introduction

  by Hope_ful in

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  i have been "lurking" (my apologies to anyone who is irritated or offended by that) for some time now.

  i was raised as a jw - i had the dubious honor of being a presiding overseer's daughter.

  my little bro and i were perfect little dubs (or is it "duds" ?!

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  Mystery

  Welcome Hope_ful.
  
  Don't let "Granny" scare your sons. You said that she has said "you are going to die if...", really honestly talk with your sons seperately about this. Ask them questions, when you are riding in the car or doing something together, playing a game or doing a puzzle or washing dishes (don't sit him down and say OK we are going to talk) mention what Granny said and ask him what he thinks about it or how he feels when he hears her. Don't automatically assume that you know what he is going to say, you may be very surprised. Don't answer for him, draw out his answers. Don't put words in his mouth like "well don't you think she really meant this...." LISTEN to his answers. Don't try to change his mind. Just let the conversation change and think through what his answers are.
  
  Until my son was 11 or 12 he still went to every door and window to make sure they were locked before he went to bed because of the "boogieman" his (biological) dad told him about when he was 4 years old.
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  Its Mattys Beheading day

  by Brummie in

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  happy birthday matty

  hope you get spiced...lol .

  brummie.

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  Mystery

  Happy B-Day Matty.
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  How do they justify running ppl off from org? x-Elders, MS, any

  by wednesday in

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  2. beliefs

  i was basicaly "run off' from the org.

  had they shown a modicum of human kindesss towards me or my family -i'd probably still be one of them.

  if u have been an elder, or ms, or just want to comment, tell me , how do they justify this with the scriptures to .

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  Mystery

  Wed,
  
  I was d/fed around 17 yrs.old. I was reinstated in about 6 - 9 months. (I was an elders daughter) After I was reinstated; I graduated and moved to the congeration next to ours.
  
  I had been best friends with some of these people. My parents best friends with some of them as well. Our 2 congerations would have get-togethers with each other. We were one of those close knit congerations.
  
  I was going to start over and become a "good little witness". My roommate and I had been to all the meetings, in service, etc... We did all the right things. Within weeks, not months, weeks; we were the talk of the congeration (both). We were drunks, partiers, hypocrites, liars..... you name it we had done it. And we had done none of those things. None. I had been d/f'ed and moved out. So I was bad association. Reinstatement................... what a joke.
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  Another Df'ing/suicide...in memory of a dear friend...

  by Ghost of Esmeralda in

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  things have calmed down again with my mother to the point where i found myself once again in her kitchen last night.

  drinking too many cups of coffee as i always do at her house, i imagine if i were a smoker i'd have been lighting one cigarette after another instead.

  it had been a pleasant enough evening, i sat there with my crocheting in my lap, something i always take with me to my mother's house so that if i get nervous or stressed out, my hands, and my mind, have something to do and somewhere to go.

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  Mystery

  (((Esmeralda)))
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  The Cool Set JW club

  by cornish in

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  i was just looking at the site of this teenager who is studying to be a jw.. .

  its so amazing and pathetic the lenghs the dubs go to tickle this girls ears about her cool site and pop idol interests.. .

  wait till she is stuck in the cult and starts getting the lectures.

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  Mystery

  Sorry, this site is temporarily unavailable!
  
  
  guess she/he didn't like us signing her guest book.
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  My girl is HOME!

  by els in

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  my daughter meghan graduated from college this past saturday.

  it was actually a beautiful day in new hampshire for a change.

  i was so proud when she walked across that stage and accepted her diploma.

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  Congradulations!
  
  Your daughters love is unconditional, apparently she learned a lot from her mom.
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  Strange Memories..

  by breal in

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  about 6 or 7 years ago after being df'd and shunned by family and friends for so many years.. i got to thinking that perhaps if i tried to get reinstated.

  not entirely sure that i really wanted to or if it was simply an idea to do this and then just did a slow fade (if that is really possible) - then i would be able to be around my family and friends like old times again.

  i even attended a few meetings in the new city i had moved to.

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  I did the reinstated act. But I couldn't follow thru. Shortly afterwards i moved a few miles away from my family and congeration. The "new" congeration "knew" that I had been D/F'ed but was reinstated; but I was still treated like I had the plague. I was never given a "2nd chance" (even tho i was an "elders daughter!)
  
  Don't go back. Only heartache and pain is to look forward to.
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  I need to vent

  by blindfool in

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  i haven't posted much lately, i've been busy with so many things.

  i'm really pretty well adjusted to being part of a jw family, my wife and all of her family are jw's.

  these people who say they are so full of love.

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  Blindfool - I know that you were venting, so this is sorta off the subject: Please DO NOT let your children get baptised! "They" (at least at my Hall) started mentioning baptism in our early teens. I was baptised at 13. They make you feel guilty if you are not planning on baptism. They manipulate you to feel you have to be baptised or (frankly!) you WILL die. Please, please, please do not let your children get baptised. OK your wife it caught in the deception and lies and false love; do not let your children get caught up in this. You are the "man of the house" UNTIL you go against "Jehovah's will", you will be doing this if you will not let your children be baptised. I don't know how your children feel about JW's or their age but keep this in mind. Bribe them, secretly give them birthdays and holidays etc.... sports, encourage a higher knowledge (college) whatever it takes (almost) but please, even if you have to march into the assembly and take them out of the pool, don't let them be baptised into a live of "hell".
  I am sorry I know it was off the subject, but... i don't know.
  
  
  Garnet - did you get married at the KH?
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  Tell Us About Your Culture!

  by MrMoe in

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  http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/15/52295/750641/post.ashx#750641

  sparked something!

  many americans are... well... mutts.

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  Mystery

  English, Irish & Indian.
  
  Apparently we had family in the "Younger Brother Gang" (outlaws of the West).
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  My first "Wordly" Funeral...

  by confuzcious in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  hey guys, .

  i just attended my first "worldly" funeral since i've been out of "the truth" tm.. anyways, i thought it was nicely done.

  it gave honor to the deceased, it drew me closer to jesus and it evoked emotions within me.. i'm just contrasting this to the jw funerals which always seems like way to peddle products rather than honor the dead.. no thoughts in particular for me, but anyone have any similar thoughts???.

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  Mystery

  I actually remember an elder saying "with all of her family being worldly; I need to make sure that I send them the message of Jehovah. This will be one funeral they will never forget."
  
  It was. Nothing about the deceased. All about the worldly relatives coming to the truth before it was "to late".