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  Describe The Person You Wish You Were

  by minimus in

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  if you could (just like that) change things about yourself, what would you be like?

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  asleif_dufansdottir

  asleif------I hate your name. Change it willya????

  Oh, yeah, sure...I just live my life worrying about what you think
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  Describe The Person You Wish You Were

  by minimus in

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  if you could (just like that) change things about yourself, what would you be like?

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  asleif_dufansdottir

  As for me (and my household)

  (sigh) Still thinking you can speak for everyone in your household...just like a JW male. Haven't you learned anything??

  (for the humor impaired, I'm teasing)

  Don't worry Min, eventually the women on this board will have you trained (or scared, either works ) so that you catch that stuff before you post it.
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  FAT PEOPLE = BAD ASSOCIATION

  by Funchback in

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  i carry a few extra pounds but i generally don't overeat.

  however, i enjoy a good meal.

  but, the organization that says, "let us not judge others" is giving it's members free reign to judge those who are overweight (in the judger's eyes).

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  asleif_dufansdottir

  Actually, Sirona, except for breakfast, Bethelites don't have to eat with the other Bethelites. Many "glean" or "scavenge" from the leftoevers and have refrigerators, microwaves, convection ovens in their rooms. There are numerous restaurants nearby in Brooklyn and the rest of NYC.

  Blondie - how do they afford NYC restaurants on their allowances? I'd think one meal would clean out their monthly income.

  As for the new emphasis on weight, I think they're just toying with people...seeing who becomes obsessed with food (oh, great, guys, really smart - 6 months from now you can do an Awake on eating disorders that people at the doors will be interested in) and who ignores them. God, everything they do disgusts me more.
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  So, what's stopping you from going to the hall?

  by JH in

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  2 elders came to my door today, at noon sharp, and i opened the door to let them in.

  they didn't want to come in, so they stood at the door and asked me, "what's stopping you from coming to the hall"?

  they only come once a year and always around christmas time.

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  asleif_dufansdottir

  You know, if I had those irritating visits from the ghosts of Christmas annoyances, I'd put a big sign on my door and refuse to answer the doorbell:
  
  To Those Who Are Here Snooping to Check for Decorations:
  Don't you have anything better to do? Obviously, I don't attend meetings anymore, so whether I have Christmas decorations or not is none of your business. Since this time of year is the only time you are interested in me, and it is obvious why, don't bother to knock. I have nothing to say to those who spy on others in the hopes of finding them doing something wrong. Mind the rafter in your own eyes. See you next year.

  Wouldn't it be a great conversation starter for friends and neighbors?? Think of the people you could innoculate against listening to JWs!
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  Movie Critic Needed

  by little witch in

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  we wanted to buy a dvd to watch, i thought the league of extraordinary gentlemen(i think that is the name) looked cool.

  no spoilers please!

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  asleif_dufansdottir

  When I go see a movie (or rent one...if we see 1 or 2 a year in theaters that's alot), I want escapist entertainment...my real life is real enough, thank you...and I don't need "great cinema" ...just a fun movie. I rarely pay attention to critics. This is just the type of fantasy stuff that I enjoy...although no doubt I'll wish it was done better. I'll probably rent it.

  Sheila - agree with you about Sean C!! The man is lovely...but I must admit he has picked some awful movies to be a part of in the past. Seems like they're either wonderful or awful, not many in between.

  How about Timeline, folks? A lot of friends really liked the book...
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  Christmas Day/Arizona Another KH is torched

  by blondie in

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  http://www.wfaa.com/sharedcontent/dallas/tsw/stories/122703dntexchurchfire.4e03.html

  worship hall fire was arson

  08:23 pm cst on friday, december 26, 2003. associated press .

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  asleif_dufansdottir

  Wasn't me.

  I suppose that's not really funny.

  The truly cynical part of me wonders whether there was declining attendance at that hall, and the society torched it for the insurance. But then I'm evil.

  Could have been some kids who were mad their folks were studying and they didn't get Christmas...

  But, I have to say...I do feel sorry for the 'honest-hearted ones' (to use another society catchphrase) who may be truly heartbroken at the loss of their hall.
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  Being too picky>>>

  by Frantic in

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  arrrrgh, ive been labelled by many as too picky.

  this ever happen to you guys?> it is known that most of us humans will never meet the 'right' person for us, or perfect, if u will.

  for example, i might meet this good looking chick, and she wants to have sex immediately, and im not into that - first, takes away the mystery and second, whose to say she wouldnt do it the following night with some other stranger?

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  asleif_dufansdottir

  Frantic,

  Don't misunderstand me about something...I know there are young women...lots of young women...who do, in my opinion, have wayyy too many sexual partners, and act in a way I don't think is particularly wise. And I think the same thing about the guys.

  I'm a grad student at a university that is known as one of the top 'party schools' in the nation...I've been in the bar area by the campus and I've seen young girls almost too drunk to walk flashing each other and everybody in the vicinity. I've heard girls talk about sleeping with everybody on the first date, like it's a good thing. They're just acting with that reckless abandon and general lack of good sense that is common to college-aged young people. I think sex should be taken more seriously than that.

  Just because I think women should be able to have sex when they want to does not mean I think there is some benefit to sleeping with everybody. I, personally, wouldn't want a sexual partner that has been on more rides than a Disney attraction, either. That is not the same thing as thinking that it's ok to have the idea that 'nice girls' that you marry should be virgins or as close to it as possible.

  Somebody else pointed out (sorry, can't remember who at this point) that maybe the girls have just been led to expect that sex on the first date is 'just the way it is.' I know when I was young (and stupid), I did have moments of thinking, "well, if I said yes to that guy, I'll have to have really good reasons or be expected to say yes to any other guy" and thinking that was reasonable! (dummy me) Saying yes to some people and no to others is perhaps something young women have to learn.

  It's just that I can't be a hypocrit about this issue. I have lots of casual, recreational sex...it just happens to be with my husband. Matter of fact, since I had a tubal ligation, the only sex we have is recreational...so I can't condemn unmarried people for doing it. And I won't suggest they get married if they're horny. How many times have people on this board bitched about dub kids getting married way to early just because they want to have sex??

  But I still think you're looking for the outside package that comes along with the behavior you don't approve of.
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  Would your faith be challenged if....................................

  by gumby in

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  they find life on mars?.

  as most of us know....they are expecting communication from the spacecrafts they have sent to the red planet.

  they are searching for water, organic matter, and signs of life.. how would your understanding of things change......if at all........if they find life there?.

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  asleif_dufansdottir

  Well, ok...I'll reply if that will make you happy...but it doesn't apply to me. Wouldn't affect my faith, such as it is, one way or the other.
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  I Am a Christian

  by Greenpalmtreestillmine in

  1. jw
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  i am a former jw just as many here are.

  i have left the watchtower just as many here also have.

  i also died as many here have.. i died, i cried, i died again.

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  asleif_dufansdottir

  Sabrina,

  You will hear me call out people who claim to be "Christian" and proceed to tell everybody else they're wrong and will be destroyed or go to hell unless they do exactly what the poster says.

  What you will never hear me do, is attack people who actually behave in a Christian manner (whether they are Christians or not).

  A person who posts because they are moved to out of love, is very easy to see. So is a person who posts because they are moved by arrogance and self-righteousness.

  There are several people of faith here who I respect (and, mind you, my respect is not such a piece of cake to earn). Even though I'm not Christian, I don't dislike people of faith, even if sometimes they get caught in the outside edges of my distaste for some of the reprehensible things that some people have done in the name of that religion. I apologize for that. Sometimes when I make a rather unpleasant remark, I forget that there are good people of faith 'listening in,' so to speak, and might hurt them without realizing it.

  Please don't feel unwelcome.

  Liz
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  Divorcing Da Mob...

  by marriedtodamob in

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  2. beliefs

  merry christmas and happy new year to everyone on this awesome board!!!

  yes, as the subject line implies, i have decided to get a divorce.

  i cannot and will not go through another christmas like the one i just went through with my 10 yr old son.

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  asleif_dufansdottir

  ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((m2dm))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

  Oh, hon...

  I've been there (not, thankfully, with any kids). I've been the "unbelieving wife." I have to say, you're doing the right thing. If I had to go through that again, I'd get the quickest divorce possible. I'm sure it will be hard, and it's irritating to add to the JW fiction that it's 'worldly people' who don't make good spouses because they don't 'love Jehovah' ...but you gotta get out.

  We're here for you!