Legendary- Outside of the Jesus/ bible crap I agree with you- Most of my family is dead- cremated. I did not need or want a memorial service and I do not dwell on them at the annaversary of thier death each year. I know some families that memorialze their dead loved ones every year- Not for me- My dad was buried, not cremated, in 1984. I have seen his grave exactly ONE time. My brain says- He is not in that plot of ground- that plot of ground only brings grief.
As for 9-11. Very bad, very awful day. Do I want to re-live that event every year? No thanks! It was hard enough the forst time. Bush does not want us to get over it- He wnats to get his popularity rate back up to what it was right after 9-11. I watched him on TV down at ground zero for a few minutes as I scanned channals looking for some NON 9-11 show to watch- I thought of what I would have said to his pinched up face had I been there.......