Repeat after me, “I am NOT doing the wrong thing”
It takes some of us a long time to get rid of those feelings of guilt and betrayal and for some it will never go away. That is why sites like this are such a great help. My sisters and I felt the same way for years after leaving and it wasn’t until I did my own research on the Witnesses (www.freeminds.org) that the feelings of guilt, imminent death, and betrayal vanished. Once you have the real truth, you will not feel bad, but it takes time. Brainwashing takes time to undo because you’ve been taught to think in a certain way for (probably) a long time.
For example, my younger brother has just been released from jail and when I met him, he told me he was thinking of returning to the meetings. I reminded him on how they publicly humiliated him from the platform while still a minor without informing mum, but that didn’t matter. His reason? He didn’t want to die at the big A. After a few discussions, and showing him printouts from this site and others, he now knows the truth and for the first time he feels free from theocratic guilt.
Your parents will not and probably will never understand your choices, but you are an adult with a child and the welfare of that child comes first. Others on this site will probably be able to give you better advice on how to deal with your parents, but just remember…You are doing the right thing.
Good luck to both of you.
Yxl1
Posts by yxl1
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23When does it get better?
by MonkeyPrincess inwhen will the guilty feeling of leaving the org go away?
i am feeling at my lowest point right now, and its terrible.
this after visiting my parents and feeling that awkward tension building between us.
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I learnt how to sleep with my eyes open...
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All Time FAVORITE Singer Or Band
by minimus inwho or what is your all time favorite singer or band?
even if you never saw them, if you could---you'd spend big bucks to see them.
i love anita baker.
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Male Artist? Cant decide between Prince and Stevie wonder. Bands? Thats easy, QUEEN!!! Female artist? either Bjork or Kate Bush.
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Is the rank and file aware of the serious dilema the WTS is facing?
by fearnotruth22 inthe rank and file fears "apostates" hence jws will not accpet any evidence or arguments from succh like ones.
the mind set automatically rejects any charges against the wts without examining facts obejectivle because the wts cannot be wrong.by definition jws view the wts as god's agency, so it cannot be wrong and even if it is wrong, it is for a reason that god is allowing it and it is god's arrangement and not the business of the rank and file to judge for themselves on that but,to leave it in j's hand and in time it will be taken care of.
in law that is called a catch all, which is sometimes the power that a judge is empowered with by the state to use his discretion and do whatever the hell he wants, pardon the phrase.. it is true that the wts has opoosers that distort facts and trump up charges in order to discredit the wts, but false accustaions against thewts do not camcel out real evidence that challenges the wt and above and beyond wt teachings is the evidence that puts a differebnt spin on and shows another perspective of the bible, and the concept of god affecting in peoples lives.
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Check out this current thread for an example of R&F thinking:
http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/11/64976/1003329/post.ashx#1003329
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The dubs at "Witness World" are discussing UN involvement!!!!!
by somebodylovesme ini am a lurker on the "witness world" witnesses-only website.
they are having a discussion because someone during door-to-door service confronted them with the un letter.
they are all saying that it is "obviously made up"... but the person is planning on writing to the society to ask.
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This is too funny. Was I ever that stupid? I've just tried opening an account on WW, but that part of the site seems to be down. Please keep us updated on the issues discussed there, as it gives us an understanding on how the Dubs react when dealing with apostate truths. That way we can fine-tune our arguments and counter arguments.
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This is just getting stupid
by spiritwalker inthis a quote from cnn.com.
in which they are talking about a new movie that is about the last ours of jesus christ ... .
the movie, whose dialogue is in latin and aramaic, covers the final 12 hours in the life of jesus christ and has come under fire from some jewish groups who claim its story could foment anti-semitism by tying christ's death to jewish authorities.. .
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Spirit,
I couldnt care less what some Jewish sect think, or any other religious organization, but I agree with your PC comment. The only thing I dislike more than Politically Correct comments, are the idiots who shout it out in the first place.
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my hair
by LukeN inlately ive been getting alot of negative comments from brothers,sisters and others about the length of my hair.
i mean sure its long but theres nothing wrong about it.
is there anything in the sciptures about hair length in men.. god its ridiculous when others try to put you down.. well you can judge for yourself.. .
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Nos,
Nothing wrong with your hair, but you've got a little something on your top lip that needs wiping off....
Luke,
You need a haircut! You look like my sister-in-law...Man, I feel old!
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(As promised) BETHEL TRIP part 7. Loosing my balance
by seven006 inas i was trying to settle into my new life i constantly plagued myself with questions about where i had been and a bigger question, where i was going.
in the mid eighties there wasn't easy access to any exjw's to ask questions and help me through a very difficult transition in my life.
today the internet offers a lot of support through a large collection of exjw's from all over the world who offer many various options based on their own personal experience on where to go once you are out of the cult.
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I would buy an eight-ball (a bit over four grams) of coke and suck it up my now beet red nose in less than a week. It was a twisted and lost form of therapy
Sounds familiar. I used that same form of "therapy" while still attending the meetings. Thankfully I had at least one real dub friend that pulled me out of it. But 4 grams a week.....?!?! Trust me people, that is A LOT!
Loving your posts, and looking forward to the next
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The end of the world...according to the WTBS Inc.
by MacHislopp intruth.
of this present system of things,
of this present wicked system.
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Thanks for the post, its a keeper.
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Generally, Witness Friends are no Prize
by metatron inin general, after nearly forty years in the "truth", i conclude that most witnesses are no prize as friends.. there are several reasons why:.
their "love" is often very conditional and qualified - sort of a "i'll be your friend as long as you count time and attend meetings" situation.. they are often so busy with theocratic busywork ( field service, meetings) that they have little time left for anything .
creative or interesting, like a real hobby.
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When I was DF'ed, only two Dubs continued to associate with me. One of them I later married and the other is still my best friend. I agree, witness friends are no great prize, but you can find a couple of gems if you're lucky.