welcome to the board blaid
sorry for the shitty day. it sounds like you can easily keep the elder henchmen at bay by just lying to them and telling them what they want to hear.
hey if that works, then carry on with it then. some here on the board even lie about their field service time and hand in fake time every month just to keep them off their backs.
it sounds like that you want to get on with your life and aren't as concerend if you are or aren't DF'd or DA'd. are you the one that is turning 18 in less than a year and is just buying time till he can get out of the house?
if that's the case, i would just keep appeasing them till you get out on your own and somewhat established on your own two feet.
bottom line, do whatever you feel you have to do to avoid JC action. Lie, bullshit, tell lthem you love the all-f*cking mighty god of the WatchTower, jehover; that you roll around naked on your bed covered in Awake! magazines, that you informal witness and get in 10 hours a month at school, that you started 12 bible studies at school, anything is fair game in this damn war bud.
And trust me, it's a war, no doubt about it. These little men are playing for blood, so this is serious. Serious like a f*uckin heart attack.
When you go get out on your own, don't give them the time of day. They ain't worth the air in your lungs to even tell them to go get bent.
Another thing i would ask. Be mad and angry at the damnable WT Society; but don't hate your family if their only crime is being loyal to this organization. Try not to judge them for it if you can.
The only reason i ask that is right now i am trying to escape the WT Society myself. Most of my family are not JW's. And they have never judged me and have always expressed love for me. If your family is deserving of such love and their only major hang-up is the Borganization, then try not to hate them for it.
It has made a world of difference for me in escaping the borg knowing I can go back to them after shunning them and hurting them for almost 20 years. I am already being welcomed back by the ones i have contacted. Your family may be running to you for the same help as the evil organization they are a part of falters in their eyes in the future.
Be there for your family when that day arrives if you can find it in your heart to do so.
Hang in there man, and good luck on that job!
Winston.