Posts by Bruja-del-Sol

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Lets list everything that has pagan origins!!

by song19 in

i have a feeling i am going to have to explain to my jw folks why i have decided to allow my children to participate in holidays at school.

theyll probably be wondering too why i will get together with our non jw family for the holidays.. .

we know jws avoid holidays because of their pagan origins.

Bruja-del-Sol

I'm proud to be pagan! Thanks for the picture, Heaven, it's lovely.

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Bill Cosby - too much smoke for no fire?

by Simon in

it seems like the list of people who are accusing him of rape and sexual assault is growing every day.

i'm skeptical of single accusations but the number of people and the similar stories seem overwhelming now.. it's not a conviction but to the court of public opinion ... guilty?.

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When you look up my real name and my husband's name on the internet in the Netherlands, you'll find that we're 'frauds', 'ripping off people', and using several tricks to get our hands to money... If you don't know us and have never spoken to us nor met us, you could believe it is true. It even seems to come from several different people... But people that really know us and know our stories, know and feel that none of what is on the internet about us is true. It's rumours, made up stories, by ONE envious and vindictive man trying to harm us, but using other people to spread his words.

I'm just telling this, to make a point:

How many people here know mr. Cosby in person? Have met him, spoken to him? I suppose none of us.

In my opinion it's up to the police and the courts to find out what the truth is with all these allegations around mr. Cosby. Until then he's innocent until proven guilty!

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just wanted to introduce myself

by TheMark in

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i've been a lurker for quite some time and enjoy the forum.

i've reached a point in life where i don't argue ideologies anymore so i don't have much to say.

i've been out for decades and believe i've been mostly de-cultabilized (if that's even a word).. my family is still in and i haven't had contact with them in years.

Bruja-del-Sol

Welcome Mark, wishing you fun on the forum from sunny Spain.

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"You have to find out her fears and exploit that. What is her worst fear?"

by cognac in

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literally, a text message to my husband from one of his "friends".

he also wrote, "it's in her hands.

it's her move now.

Bruja-del-Sol

@Cognac: thinking of you and wishing you and your children will be safe. So sorry for what you're going through right now. My heart goes out to you

@Flipper & Mrs. Flipper: you both are wonderful for offering your help and support to people in need.

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"Tight Pants" by Mentally Diseased - a tribute to Anthony Morris III

by jwleaks in

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too tight pants by mentally diseased.

(with thanks to baggy trousers by madness).

too tight pants in kingdom halls.

Bruja-del-Sol

Where's the 'like' button?

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I Waited Until My Wedding Night To Lose My Virginity And I Wish I Hadn't...

by Divergent in

i found this article interesting & just wanted to share.

after going through my teenage years trying to be the perfect jw, i realized that trying to live up to the standards imposed on me have been for worse & not for better.

i was feeling miserable, repressed, unfulfilled, with a great lack of self confidence & self esteem.

Bruja-del-Sol

I recognize a lot in the article. After my weddingday it took me six weeks to realize that I'd married the wrong guy. He was cute, he was sort of sweet (and also a real JW, so he was 'in charge' so to speak, the boss, the 'head'... yuk!) and from day one I really didn't like to have sex with him. I managed to stay with him for nearly fifteen years, but then I couldn't take it anymore. The promise of a 'blessed marriage' when you keep your virginity appeared to be a lie. But like the person in the article, it took me years to learn to enjoy sex and feel okay about it. And even now I still have times that I have to fight the old thoughts and feelings of disgust and dislike, just because I used to be so programmed to think that sex is dirty, sinful and has to be about the man's needs instead of mine...

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Children calling jw adults uncle and auntie, when did that start?

by awakening in

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i cant figure out when the auntie and uncle thing started or why.

it sure is a peadophiles dream to have a kid they dont know call them uncle!

they are now in a special relationship.

Bruja-del-Sol

To me as a child it wasn't strange at all. Later in life my ex-husband and I used to call an old sister 'auntie', she was the dearest friend of my (then) inlaws and a friend of their family for decades, and my children changed that to 'granny'. Every since I've always referred to her as 'my grandmother', even though she wasn't really related to us, it just felt that way. And she was happy with it, she never had children of her own. We were the only family she had. She's passed away over 14 years ago, but still to this day she was closer to my heart than any of my blood related grandparents.

My new husband has never been a JW, but he has numerous stories of neighbours he'd call 'uncle' and 'auntie', so I guess it's also a cultural thing in the Netherlands to give those 'titles' to people who aren't related but still somehow close to the family.

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How Often Do You Come To JWN? How Often Do You Post?

by minimus in

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do you check this site, daily?.

do you post very much?.

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Bruja-del-Sol

I'm a regular visitor, usually every day a couple of times, and scan the latest topics fairly quick and read the ones that catch my attention. I mostly read, but every once in a while I also post things about my experiences as a JW, hoping that someone might find it helpful. I like to read the stories of others, it's sometimes like looking in the mirror from a different angle...

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What happy, wonderful thing happened to you since you left the "truth"?

by Jeannette in

more than one thing for me, but i have learned to enjoy festivals, and just enjoying free time.

it's not that the org wouldn't allow it, i just felt i shouldn't.

there are others, of course, and i really have been happier and good things have come my way since i left.

Bruja-del-Sol

The happiest thing for me (after being DF'd and divorced) was that I finally had a chance to find my first love (a classmate in school), who was sent away by my father because he wasn't a witness. After 18 years I was still looking for closure, had a couple of questions to ask him and wanted to end it all with one last chance to tell him how sorry I was (about what my father did to him) and how much I liked him back then.

I found him, we had that last talk... and it was the beginning of a new life. The spark appeared to still be there, for both of us. We tried to fight it, since he was married. But because his marriage wasn't happy and his wife was extremely jealous, he gave up on her and they divorced. He then needed time to recover emotionally, since his now ex-wife really terrorized him and took away his only child. Nearly two years after that we were still together but also still living apart. And then he finally asked me to come live with him. A couple of years later we married and now we feel lucky to be together every day!

He never expected me to escape the JW's (nor my parents), and is proud and happy that I did and that I found him after all those years.

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Have you ever read the review of Steven Hassan's books on Cult news.com?

by Enzo in

hi, to everyone my username is enzo, .

recently a saw a video presented by john cedar presenting steve hassan as a cult expert.. .

but read this reviews presented on cult news about steve hassan's books, and it's up to you make your own opinion about the video.

Bruja-del-Sol

I'm Dutch and I feel quite embarrassed by this 'Enzo'-type...