Wishing you and your wife the very best!
Posts by Netty
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23Time To Say Goodbye!
by Voyager insimon, we wish to express our thanks for your allowing my wife and i, to have been part of this wonderful group for the past few years.. due to some circumstances, we must say goodbye!
we have enjoyed (everyone) on the forum, and their many lighlights and information.. we hope and pray that everybody will find the truth and path they seek for a happy life and much success.
all of you shall be dearly missed!
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Wife's weight problem
by dangel ini amlooking for advice.
before getting married, my wife was slim and took care of herself.
after the wedding however, she started to eat much more and not exercise.
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Netty
Ironic, how the guy who lit the match, ran for cover when the fire started. hmmm... Where is Dangel?
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when that gut feeling turns out to be right.............
by happehanna in.
i was concerned about my friend and worried as they hadn't returned my calls or emails, so i thought i would travel to see him, and find out if my bad feeling was nothing to worry about.. he had died and i will miss him, i knew, my insides knew and it hurts.. he was my secret and it seems to hurt more as i have no-one to share the grief with.
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Netty
Sorry about your friend. Why was he your secret? I am sorry for what you are going through right now.
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Respected in the JW community
by greendawn inbefore leaving the org were you considered to be a respected member of the jw community?
if you felt that you were, did this make it harder to leave and lose any sense of recognition and importance you enjoyed there?
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Netty
My father is an elder, and my family was a well respected and known family. So yup, guilt by association I guess. Yes, It made it harder to leave, but it made it harder to be in too. There was so much pressure to perform, and be the perfect little elders daughter, doing things I despised doing, talks, field service all that gross stuff.
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Welcome Dontknowwhattobelieve
by Crumpet inhi pete.
sorry to be slow to welcome you here - only just saw your third post on paulj's thread.
so how did you get out and what brought you to the board?.
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Netty
Welcome!
Netty
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S*its about to hit the fan with my in-laws
by pratt1 inbrief history:.
both my wife and i have faded from the borg for about 10 years.
we still maintain close relationhips with the dubs in our family on both sides.. my wife's sister has not only faded, but she has become an ordained minster, thus my mother in law calls her an "apostate" and refuses to have any contact with her.. her 4 year old daughter will stay with my family for about 2 weeks in august.
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Netty
Sometimes, the SH*T just has to hit the fan. Seems like it is time for it to happen. It just burns me up, how the JW's can behave the way they do, so unkind, but then expect that they are "entitled" to something. The grandmother made her bed, and she should sleep in it.
I would not be very happy, if I left my children in someones care, had expressed my wishes about something so serious, and then found out that the caretakers went against my wishes.
You really do need to express your feelings, and let your wife know in no uncertain terms, she has no business taking the child to the grandmothers. Ask your wife if she wants to lose her sisters trust, because that is what will happen.
Perhaps if the grandmother actually suffers the consequences of her own cruel actions, maybe she would learn a lesson, that she has to change her behavior if she wants to see her own grandkid.
Yes, I take this personally, if that's what it sounds like. As it has happened in my own family. My parents made the statement about my disfellowhipped sisters son when he was a baby "I'm not going to bond with him, since he is going to die at Armegeddon". Like I just reminded my father, my sisters son is now 11 years old, and they have aboloutely no relationship with him.
btw, they piss and moan an complain that the boys worldy grandma has such a close relationship with him.
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WILL MY CHILDREN DIE ??
by dontnowat2believe ini was driving in my brothers car with him about 5 years ago (hes now an elder), we were in the middle of a row when he turned to me and told me that when i die at armageddon that i dont need to worry because he said he will look after my kids, this upset me to the point that i made him stop the car and i got out.
a friend of mine (who is a jw) i spoke to about it told me that he was just trying to be cruel and then went on to tell me that any children who are a part of a witness family would die at armageddon.
i would like to know if anyone knows if this true ?
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Netty
Of course its not true!! It's just one of many, awful, FALSE lies that are promoted by the JW's Its a way to control you. I have been told the same thing by my mother, that I am going to die at Armegeddon, and because I am not "serving Jehovah" that my children would to.
I know it can tear you up to hear this garbage. It is so friggin cruel.
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Wife's weight problem
by dangel ini amlooking for advice.
before getting married, my wife was slim and took care of herself.
after the wedding however, she started to eat much more and not exercise.
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Netty
Well, where'd you go Rangel?
To tell her you're not as attracted to her, nope the greatest idea. You really think she doesn't know? If its that bad, not only does she know, but shes probably in a lot of turmoil over it. We cant assume that just because a person put some weight on, that they just sit around eating cheeseburgers 24/7. There are lots of reasons it can happen. And some can even be beyond a persons control. Like I said earlier, lots of health problems can cause weight gain. And of course, having children changes a womens body. How old is she? When you're older than 30, the metabolism changes.
Work with her on this, without hurting her feelings. Hurting her is not going to help your relationship at all.
Funny, my hubby at one point in our marriage put some weight on, and I could have cared less. I loved him, and wanted him just the same. Sad what society can do to a person.
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One of those difficult nights, you know the kind??
by Frog inhad one of those nights last night.
what is is about the darkness that brings out those heightened emotions that you've been storing up for a rainy day?
don't want to sound like a sadsac with what i want to share, but i need to be able to get this off my chest tonight:) .
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Netty
I know how you feel sweetie! I have said almost those exact words, "I am so tired of being the one trying to bring this friggin family together, I GIVE UP" Same as you, I seem to be the only one knocking myself out trying to make this happen. (MIddle child anyone?)
It's just all so screwed up isn't it, the JW crap we have to fight against. I understand you, what you feel, and what you are going through. I am glad you brought it up, it's actually something I've been grappling with here the past few months. So great how one person can bring something up, and without even knowing it, help another. (kinda like sparky's thread)
(((Froggie))) Now gimme 10 points will ya?
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Could the Spirit world have helped your exit from the religion?
by free2beme inboy, this might be that can of worms i meant to keep closed!.
i was thinking about something though and wondered what your thoughts might be.
if you believe in angels, the spirit realm, spirit guides or spirits of loved ones that have crossed.
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Netty
Who knows, Free2beme, its possible. After leaving the dubs, I am trying to open my mind up to things that were preached to be such taboo, you know what I mean? But my mind can feel a little bit soughtered shut at times.
Something happened to me in the hospital, after the birth of my son. When I tell the story to my (non-jw friends) they tell me it was my guardian angel. I feel real good to be at this point, free enough to entertain the thought at least, even if I'm not 100% convinced.
Here's 2 u, free2beme!