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  Fantasy Prone Personalities v. Skeptics

  by Robdar in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  while watching the history traveler channel's story on lourdes, i heard an interesting phrase: "fantasy prone personality" and looked it up on line.

  i think it's pretty interesting.

  http://www.musespace.com/musings/articles/fantasy.html.

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  Definitely a fantasy prone person here. Only child, loner in school, spent most of the time alone in my room talking to myself, acting out made-up dramas, drawing pictures, writing stories, or watching Star Trek with my parents. hehe
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  Has anyone ever personally written to the Society?

  by seeitallclearlynow in

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  i've been listening to marlene mercado's audio testimony on jwinfoline while reading and posting here today; and it reminded me that i had written to the society once, years ago, and i received a response.

  the response made me angry with them, although they were agreeing with me on something that i was complaining about.

  what made me angry was that they made no acknowledgment that they put a lot of pressure on the brothers to reach out and even after they have attained an office of oversight, a lot more pressure is put on the elders and servants to do more, do just so, etc....they claimed that it was my elder husband's own fault that he was barely ever home, and when he was, he was in his den or on the phone with someone who couldn't make any decisions on their own.

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  I did, I had a question about the meaning of a line from one of the songs. They spelled my name wrong and didn't answer the question in depth...I was left still not knowing what the answer was. LOL I felt very, very disappointed.
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  Disassociated

  by Euphemism in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i just found out that the elders announced meia's and my disassociation at the service meeting this week.

  they'd called me on monday and told me that they were going to; i fired off an appeal letter the next day, and hadn't heard anything, so i thought they might have postopned the announcement.

  i just found out, however, that the meeting was held on monday this week because the other congregation had the co's visit.

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  Thanks so much for all your hugs and wishes for well, you guys. It means a lot to us. :-)

  When I first found out earlier today, I was actually ecstatic. It felt so good to officially no longer be one of Jehovah's Witnesses. My mom had emailed me a few days after the announcement had taken place, giving me a new email address for her, and it was a very generically friendly and loving email. So I was greatly heartened at that...they aren't going to *totally* shun us like she'd earlier promised.

  The yucky feelings came later with a brief email from her laid on a quick but knife-like guilt trip. (She's good at that...sudden and deadly...she coulda been a lawyer.) Dan (also coulda been a lawyer) emailed her back and very respectfully reminded her that we're not the ones causing her pain here. She disagrees of course, but dropped it after that. But she wants us to keep in touch here and there. They're still limiting their association, but I have a feeling my dad's behind this one. He's a softy, and I happen to be one of the few things in life he draws good feelings from.

  I plan on emailing her and reminding them that I love them and didn't want to hurt them, but that it's important for me to live for me now instead of them. I have to recover first...feeling pretty shaky at the moment.
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  Get Fuzzy

  by Euphemism in

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  2. humour

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  the comic strip get fuzzy opines on the subject of high-control religions... .

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  LOL That's funny; when I saw this comic this afternoon I was thinking the exact same thing... ;-)
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  Were your prayers ever answerd by Jehovah?

  by micheal in

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  i recall praying countless of times about very specific things, "worked in harmony with my prayers" and nothing.

  anything that remotely seemed like an answer was either coincidence or my own determination to get it done.. so, how about you?

  did jehovah answer your prayers or were you like me, did you feel very frustrated and guilty because they were never answered?

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  Actually, I had one really weird, pointed answer to a repeated prayer that was hard to dismiss as coincidence. I suppose it had to be though... Either that, or some higher power up there was thinking, "that girl has been saying the same damn thing every night for the past three years! Would someone SHUT HER UP?!!" LOL

  It seemed that lots of my prayers were answered. I tend to chalk it up to karma these days, I guess. I haven't really thought about it. ;-)
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  What's your favorite JW word or phrase?

  by Sara Annie in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  in a minimus moment, i find myself interested in knowing which buzz-words and phrases in jw publications stand out the most to you?

  when i read wt literature, i constantly find myself astounded by how transparently cultish the language is.

  in an earlier, unrelated thread, i said the following: .

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  I like "happified". Ha, ha, that makes me feel so happified! *rolls eyes*

  And who really says "wholesome" besides bread commercials?

  Let us enjoy some wholesome, heartwarming association at a get-together where we shall sing Kingdom Songs and eat healthy snacks.

  Let's get happified!!
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  Unsolicited Advice

  by pettygrudger in

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  do you feel compelled to give advice to your friends if you think they are making bad choices?

  if it's not threatening to your friend in a physical way - do you live & let live - even if their choices have the potential to hurt them emotionally at a future time?

  what is the "right thing to do in these situations"?

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  Yeah...I have a real allergic reaction to unsolicited advice. ;-)

  I think it's from the way I grew up...I didn't believe in myself, and of course the JWs teach you not to trust yourself and to live in fear, so I *always* asked for advice on *everything* and if anyone offered *any* advice I would take it because I assumed they knew better than me.

  Now, there are some areas that I really don't want to screw up and if someone says something I need to hear, that's OK. But since I started healing emotionally, I realized how important it is for me to take my own risks and learn from them. These days I feel like a two year old and I want to scream NO! and MINE! all the time because I never got to do that as a two year old or as a teenager...two very important rebellious stages in a person's life. I never learned about boundaries...

  OK, I'm having a personal revelation here...ttyl! ;-)
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  My Best Friends Still Love Me

  by Piph in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i had a talk with my best friend (who is still an active jw) the other day, and told her that i wasn't interested in remaining an active witness any more.

  i knew she would accept my feelings, because she's a wonderful person and is actually very emotionally healthy, but was afraid because i didn't really know how tight a grip the mind control had on her, and didn't know if she would feel obligated to back off in our friendship any.

  i was deeply afraid of that, because we're as close, if not closer than, sisters.. to my pleasant surprise, she not only totally accepted my feelings, but she already knew what i was going to say before i said it.

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  Thanks for the hugs, Xena and Doodle! :D (((((hugs)))))

  I am SO hoping we can make it! :-) Thank you so much for your words of support.

  BTW, We haven't heard anything from anyone yet. Still holding my breath...
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  My Best Friends Still Love Me

  by Piph in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i had a talk with my best friend (who is still an active jw) the other day, and told her that i wasn't interested in remaining an active witness any more.

  i knew she would accept my feelings, because she's a wonderful person and is actually very emotionally healthy, but was afraid because i didn't really know how tight a grip the mind control had on her, and didn't know if she would feel obligated to back off in our friendship any.

  i was deeply afraid of that, because we're as close, if not closer than, sisters.. to my pleasant surprise, she not only totally accepted my feelings, but she already knew what i was going to say before i said it.

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  (((((Sassy))))) ((((((Jesika))))))

  Thanks so much to both of you! :-) Sassy, we're definitely finding a lot of comfort in our ex-JW friends...even the ones in town have been wonderful and very loving and supportive. I can't wait til we can share that with you IRL. :-)

  Jesika, that meant so much to me, that you shared your experiences with me. Thanks so much...I feel a lot less alone now. It gives me a sense of peace knowing that you've gone through something so similar and to see where you are now. I know it will get easier in time.

  Thanks again, to both of you. <3 <3 <3
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  My Best Friends Still Love Me

  by Piph in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i had a talk with my best friend (who is still an active jw) the other day, and told her that i wasn't interested in remaining an active witness any more.

  i knew she would accept my feelings, because she's a wonderful person and is actually very emotionally healthy, but was afraid because i didn't really know how tight a grip the mind control had on her, and didn't know if she would feel obligated to back off in our friendship any.

  i was deeply afraid of that, because we're as close, if not closer than, sisters.. to my pleasant surprise, she not only totally accepted my feelings, but she already knew what i was going to say before i said it.

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  Thank you both so much. :-)

  I think I'll be walking on eggshells until it happens...but I'm in a better place emotionally than I ever have been before. I feel better equipped to handle it; I've been working on my own brand of spirituality and it seems to really be working for me so far. It's tending to give me the peace of mind to stay present in my own mind instead of being blown here and about by other people's emotions. That's definitely a plus!! ;-)

  Thanks again, for listening, and for your support. It really meant a lot. :-)