Blondie, you are amazing.wish we could go for coffee sometime.have a good weekend xx
quellycatface
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Can you be DFd if you were never really baptised?
by Slidin Fast inhere's a question.
i was baptised at a very early age.
it may have been as early as ten years old.
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Personal rules I live by when talking to Christians
by free2beme inas a former witnesses, i have spoken to tons and tons of christians since my exit.
some want to convert me to their faith, heal me of what they see as false information in my youth and so on.
when ever i speak to them, not being a christian now, i have certain things that guide me.
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quellycatface
I agree about the two god thing.he has a definite split personality.
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Saturday mornings are the best!
by Faithful Witness ini am just sitting here, reading some posts on jwn.
my kids are playing upstairs, and i can hear them laughing.
the snow is falling gently.
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quellycatface
Oh joy!! We had a great morning. A leisurely breakfast at our local cafe. We actually laughed at those suckers getting ready for field service!!!
Bought a few Xmas treats. Did some twinking of the tree. Then my husband and son went off to play rugby. Just think of all that beer and boy's talk after the game!!! Bound to be a few naughty words and rough play.
Then my husband is going to his Xmas works party tonight. More drinking and naughty words.
How I miss prepping for the WT........ NOT.
Merry Christmas to one and all XX
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Nervousness While Commenting?
by schlick inwas always shy about public speaking of any kind.
when i commented, my heart would beat as rapid as a moving train.
and oh if it was something i tried to remember then it would be forgotton the second being put on the spot.
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quellycatface
Just think of the average intelligence of each person. Not impressive, is it??
Or as someone suggested once, just pretend they are all cabbages when you're on the platform. All you can see are cabbages.
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Help me...!
by OneDayillBeFree inlost my job, just a week before making the final arrangements to move into my very own apartment.. got a speeding ticket on the following sunday for trying to make it to the meeting "on time", (never made it to the hall, just parked in the back of a shopping center for 2 hours in silence).. marked by the elders for quitting pioneering, no more commenting and "failing to adhere to bible counsel".. jw family sees me as a disappointment.
non-jw family is too far away to care.. found out ex-girlfriend got df'ed and is now pregnant.
puts some of the blame on me for how things turned out.. realizing that she's not entirely wrong as i was still an ignorant, kiss-ass, die hard jwdub when we started dating, always putting the "kingdom interests first" never having time for her since "the end was so freaking close" and then warping her up in the mess of me learning ttatt.. dwelling night after night in "what could have been" if i had never been a jw.. alternating between being a theist, atheist and agnostic on a daily basis to the point where i don't care anymore yet getting creeped the f*ck out when facing my own mortality and the thought of me dying alone.. always coming to the same conclusion, when i find myself alone on friday nights and weekends, that i have no actual friends, only two conditional jw "friends" which are both currently out of town for about a month and 0 real, non-jw friends.. haven't been able to sleep well in literally weeks now.
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quellycatface
I feel very sad for you....Try and take one day at a time.
I know what you mean when you wake up to reality and the new system, living forever etc...is all pie in the sky. It is scary and you cannot think what to do now, kind of thing? This is normal after leaving, you will learn on here. You are amongst fellow sufferers.
Keep sharing and facing up to your feelings. What does'nt kill us makes us stronger. At least you are'nt living in cloud cuckoo land anymore.
Can you join any clubs that would interest you?? I'm actually thinking of joining a shooting club and then pretend I'm killing the WT conductor and service overseer. Do you have any hobbies you've always wanted to pursue??
Hope you have a peaceful weekend.
Take care
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And so it begins.....
by quellycatface ini have been out and about over the last couple of days.
getting some nice little christmassy decorations and mince pies.
at least 3 sisters have shunned me!!
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quellycatface
I have been out and about over the last couple of days. Getting some nice little Christmassy decorations and mince pies. At least 3 sisters have shunned me!!!It is almost a relief, at least I'm not being asked how I am, "missed you at the KH last night" etc.... BUT it is still a shock. I am trying to keep positive and wake up to the fact that if they were TRUE friends their love would come without clauses.
Anyone else have any similar experiences when they left the Borg?
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The Definition of Insanity: LOYALTY TO THE GOVERNING BODY
by Terry inthe definition of insanity boils down to expecting success by repeating actions which cause failure.. .
jehovah's witnesses are expected to prove their loyalty to the organization by believing and practicing what they are told.. does this lead to success or failure?.
ask the thousands of loyal believers who were led to expect armageddon in 1914, 1925, 1975!.
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quellycatface
I remember a line in a James Bond movie once, "nobody ever leaves the KGB". I wonder if it was the GB, what the "K" would stand for??
It's pretty much a true statement as well!!!!
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Do you look like the apostate they warned you about?
by Angus Beef inafter waking up and wanting to get out of this nightmare, the word apostate is really bothering me.
if i quitely become inactive, fade away will i just be looked at as "always weak".
i want to scream out how big a fool i was.. and now telling my poor young daughter how wrong i was to bring her up as a jw.
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quellycatface
I think that is an awful word that the GB just love to use. It makes you feel bad/guilty just saying or looking at it. Very clever mind control.
I really feel for you. I really wish their was something I could say or do to make your departure/fading any easier.
This is what happened to me today. I was in work and when I left to come home, saw some JW's on the stand and I looked straight at them (2 older men). I swore they looked at me as if they knew what I'd done and felt their contempt. It would be impossible as I did'nt know them at all, I work in a big city. Isn't it funny how they can make you feel like that?? My mind was obviously playing tricks on me. BUT the hold they had over me for 27 years or so, was a strong one.
I have gone through many emotions in the last few months, apathy, anger, dissolutionment (that's bloody hard) and depression. I will tell you one thing....I do not miss the meetings. I'm not sure why as they were a huge part of my life.
Take each day as it comes my friend. Lots of good people on here to help you through probably, the most important part of your life.
Take good care.
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New here
by Brainfloss inwell,i have been lurking here for a couple of years.
i was babtized at 16 for all of the wrong reasons and when i moved out after highschool i really never looked back, although i suppose i always thought it was the truth.
at 36 i met the love of my life.
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quellycatface
Hi Brainfloss. Was particularly sad for your wife when she was pregnant. A woman really needs her friends at that vulnerable time. Shame on those people. Yet they carry on knocking on doors?? Charity begins at home.
Look forward to reading further posts.
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What are the best questions?
by MissyM inwhat would you say are the best questions to ask a jw which they will not be able to answer and may make them question their beliefs?.
what (if you are a former jw) made you question the "truth"?.
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quellycatface
The fact you cannot exit this religion without being shunned. That is NOT Christian. What is the basis of that garbage rule.