Posts by Jen1

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Finally decided to introduce myself here

by cookiemaster in

hey guys !

i've stopped believing the watchtower crap a few years ago.

i achieved this on my own, despite being raised as one.

Jen1

Hello and welcome

I am new as well. Late 40s fading very very slowly! Get an eduation! Its important If only I had!

Love cookies. My husband and I like the soft ones! Love the odd doughnut as well, at least I do, but not to often.

take care Jen1 x

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this week's wt study

by thedog1 in

i conducted the wt study tonight on higher education.

i wondered what the reaction of the bros and sis would be.

there was no deviation from the idea that a university education is not a good idea.

Went to meeting today first time in ages could not come up with an excuse! Fading! Added bonus some horrible ones away! Brother who just moved in said I went to University before I got the truth but the course was very indepth and I would not have had time to serve Jehovah and do all my study, you cannot be a jw and go to university. But of course you can pioneer while doing cleaning work/window cleaning.

Guess what, he has The best car. Fancy house. Fantastic fulltime job. No sign of him now as a baptized brother giving up any of it for part-time work, smaller house, more modest car!

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I need to make some new friends now.

by quellycatface in

jw
friends

it gets harder to make friends as you get older and you're children more independent, i feel.. i know it sounds a bit sad but any ideas about how to make some new friends??.

i'm not averse to joining a club or starting a new hobby.

i just feel a bit out of practice.. nelly no mates xx.

Jen1

I know how you feel. I am Jen1 no mates! Thought was being a good jw by not having any outside friends. Next year I am going to join some club not sure what yet and make some new friends. hey we can be friends!

I was thinking about all the ones in our cong. who have worldly friends, they socialize with work mates. They make friends at the gym and meet them each week, to work out. The go to football games with worldy people. They go to non jw relative functions. And these are elders and their wives. pioneers and the goody publishers who go to all the meetings field service. Anyway I hope it all works out for you. Lets be friends!

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welcome new poster Jen1 on my thread 'making connections'

by losingit in

jw
friends

please welcome jen1 to the jwnforum.

she posted for the first time on my thread 'making connections.

' let's all please encourage her!!!!.

Jen1

ps thank you all for your welcome.

Just realized how I really vented and I am sorry I guess its finally nice to have someone to talk to about how I feel.

Best wishes to all.

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welcome new poster Jen1 on my thread 'making connections'

by losingit in

jw
friends

please welcome jen1 to the jwnforum.

she posted for the first time on my thread 'making connections.

' let's all please encourage her!!!!.

Jen1

Hello it nice to find others who understand, thank you.

Brought up a jw. Pioneered from school. Left school at 16. Last few years have seen how hypocritical elders and wives are. Sick to death of never being good enough, thought off as bad. Being ignored by elders wives for months on end, because I cannot do as much because I take care of a sick husband. I have no friends in the world, because I was a good jw.

But I have plans to fade, which I guess it what I am doing now! Have not done door knocking for over a year, just reported small amounts. Have not been part of the school for couple of years. Missed odd Tue/Sun meetings.

Right now they are texting to visit and my husband has said thankyou but I do not feel well. Last meeting I went to got cornered by elder who said its such a shame we could not visit we will have to make it another time, this elder moved in to cong a year ago and this is the most the guy has ever said to me, even hello is hard for him, I just do not understand. New understanding light dont get it! Pedophiles two different ones at different times moved into our cong. it made me sick to be in the same room as them. One did move out eventually the other is reinstated.

If you are not in with the in crowd you are invited to nothing socially, you are just judged by them, you are not doing enough, oh my goodness no new clothes for the assembly Sunday meeting shame on you.

I consider myself to be a kind hearted person. Caring. The problem is jws make you feel bad/wicked for not going on service/not attending meetings/not being on service meeting/etc etc etc. And that eats away at you. Thank you for reading. Finding this site has given me new hope!

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WT Study March 15 on jw.org

by Gayle in

only scanned,,couple articles on necessary on having a old-age long-term plan now.

reality is hitting them more than ever.. also, australia showed "publisher" amount.

i assume it was the "peak" stat.

Jen1

This makes me so mad! My mums is elderly and has bad health, I mow her lawn and take care of her garden. I help with her cleaning, she can cope with some! I take her shopping each week. I take her to hospital appointments. One elder said to mum how can I help you she said you could mow my lawn, she said this because she thought it would help me, because my husband had hospital appointments and was not doing so well, he said, oh NO I mean spiritually! She has been a widow for ten years. They ask how they can help but do they mean it no way! We have no other family!

I was brought up a jw and am fading its going to take a few years!! Helping my mum is a pleasure. About two years ago I met a sister who pioneers along with her husband, very dedicated, top of the tree types into everything, could she take care of her mum. NO put her in a home to be taken care of by strangers, visits when she can. Shocked. My mum said wow I really appreciate you taking care of me.

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making connections

by losingit in

one of the thing i appreciate most about this site is reading other people's experiences while in and out of the cult.

when i read other people's stories, it helps to validate my own experiences.

i rarely talked to anyone else besides my husband concerning my doubts, and so for the entire time that i was in i thought i was the only one having these negative experiences with the brothers in the kingdom hall.

Jen1

Hortensia thank you.

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making connections

by losingit in

one of the thing i appreciate most about this site is reading other people's experiences while in and out of the cult.

when i read other people's stories, it helps to validate my own experiences.

i rarely talked to anyone else besides my husband concerning my doubts, and so for the entire time that i was in i thought i was the only one having these negative experiences with the brothers in the kingdom hall.

Jen1

Thank you all for your support its good to know I am not on my own. After my vent I decided that I am going to carry on missing as many meetings as I can, to keep mum happy I have to take her now and then! To be honest I have not knocked on doors for a year, but I will carry on putting in a small report. And instead of letting my missery show when elders wives are a pain and elders are in the mood to hastle me I am going to put on a happy show. What is it with elders they are either bothering you constantly or ignoring you. Why are they so keen to talk to you after a special article in the mags? I find it so funny when they want to come visit before the circuit overseers visit.

Then in the new year I am going to join something? Not religious just something that gets me out with people to make friends!

Yesterday I bought some christmas wrapping paper to wrap a gift for a healthcare worker. Half way round the suppermarked I came over all hot and my heart started racing because I suddenly realized I could bump in to jw. It felt so good to buy a gift! All the elders wives in our congregation buy each other anniversary cards and gifts. Did you know its ok for an elders wive to give an anniversay gift to another elders wife right in front of you. Then that same elders wives tells another sister its not right for her to have given a gift to another sister in the hall. Did you know the elders/wives/children all have a different set of rules.

My husband is a fantastic man, he does have health issues but because of the double standard he does not push to go to meetings and hates knocking on doors. He also hates going to circuit assemblies. But he does not want out? But he does not want to go?

I regret not getting an education. When I think of all the elders in our congreagation that are my age they all got an education, and now they earn lots of money but they have encouraged all our teenagers to go straight in to pioneering, most have and the two that have not are constantly enduring bullying remarks. jws are bullys its my way or you will die do you want to die.

So like I said I have my plan, I want to be happy and have friends who are kind and not judging my every move and making me out to be bad. Thank you for reading. Its Saturday morning and I am going to the shops soon. bad! Oh and my mum is coming with me!

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Walk into your Kingdom Hall and tell us what you saw !

by RULES & REGULATIONS in

this was me driving into the parking lot and into the kingdom hall:.

every week the same brothers and sisters are late getting to the meeting.

elders are talking with other elders ( who always have notes and folders in their hands).

Jen1

Elders wives dressed to kill.

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making connections

by losingit in

one of the thing i appreciate most about this site is reading other people's experiences while in and out of the cult.

when i read other people's stories, it helps to validate my own experiences.

i rarely talked to anyone else besides my husband concerning my doubts, and so for the entire time that i was in i thought i was the only one having these negative experiences with the brothers in the kingdom hall.

Jen1

I am in my late 40s and was born into this. Thought I was going mad, have felt ill for years, tired all the time, aches and pains depression. And anxiety attacks! Pushed into baptism, pioneering from school. Sick to my stomach with nerves in field service every single time I went out everytime I put my hand up to answer at meetings, do talks constantly being told to pray about it, pray pray pray, are you praying for help.

My husband has bad health and it is difficult to get to meetings thank goodness. We see the hypocrisy of how the jws really treat people. Self righteous elders wives who constantly try to interfer!!!!! I am a good person and yet I am so bad in the jws eyes. I have no one to turn to not one single worldy friend. No association with school friends outside of school. No association with workmates out side of work. I do not work now!

I guess I have been fading and did not know it.

Elders have been texing for a visit. And I am worried I will tell them to go to hell and stop bothering me. Their wives have been texting as well!

Its a small town. What do I do?? I cannot be dissfell. it would kill my mum at this point!!

Is it possible to go to the odd meeting, put a report in without going out in service, just we sweetness and light with them say what you know they want, while trying to make friends in the world??? Oh and I did try to do the right thing when one elder treated me badly I talked to another elder about it mainly because I burst out crying with him and his wife and they wanted to know what was wrong, I explained and he said well we could sort this out but you know what that family are like it will totally blow up for you and not end good for you.