Odrade

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  If someone told you they would give you $10 M,,,,,, if you,,,,,,

  by AK - Jeff in

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  just closed your eyes, threw a dart at the world map, and would have to take the 10 million, get on a plane within the hour, move to that location, and never look back, contact your friends or relatives again.

  no rule changes.

  you can take your mate and/or minor children, but can tell no one else.

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  the anywhere in the world thing? No. The "take the mate and the 'kids'" thing? Sure I can do that.
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  JC is over... now the aftermath

  by drew sagan in

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  first of all, why don't all of you congratulate me on 2000 posts!

  in other news, the jc is over.

  because of this we have an elder that lied to us and to my wife parents.

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  ::::As long as I am considered as part of the congregation the elders have some authority over me; ::::

  Amber, the elders only have authority over you if you give them that authority. Whatever their decision, you are going to live your life as a healthy, thinking member of society, right? So where is their authority? They cannot require you to DA, and DF'ing you only works within the bounds of their own little world and the other people who choose to subject themselves to it. They have NO authority to force you to be "Amber Rose Disfellowshipped Sagan" or "Amber Rose Disassociated Sagan", can they? Just because it is their rule, doesn't mean it has to be yours.

  Wishing you both the best. -O
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  Caught Wife Cheating

  by roflcopter in

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  so i posted a while back about my marriage problems.... whole new gambit thrown into the mix.

  i've had suspicions all along that something like this might be happening... but only just not confirmed that she's been cheating on me... with another jw that she works with!

  she could have been more discreet about it rather than leave all the text messages on her phone.

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  SBF: I'm not above using their own stick to beat them with. Presumably that is the sentiment being expressed here.
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  WHAT "WERE" YOU IN HIGH SCHOOL? AND DID YOU GO ON TO HIGHER EDUCATION?

  by juni in

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  just a fluffy question ~~~.

  were you a freak?

  jock?

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  I was a big huge nerd. Only girl in the "computer club" which I was allowed to attend because it was held during normal school hours, during break time. I was in the band, so I was also a band geek, and I was a JW- one of those maddening ones who preached, earning me the sometimes nickname of 'bible girl,' although our school had a thriving junior something or other which was a fundie christian club, so I was oddly NOT the most rabid bible thumper in my small-town high school. I had a very large vocabulary since one of my favorite subjects was always "language arts," and believe me, that never got me any kudos, so add the moniker "walking dictionary" to the list of names I wished I didn't answer to... bah.

  In spite of all that stuff, I really liked school and was pretty depressed over not continuing after H.S., even though I "knew" I was right. Currently, I have vocational school training, and still no higher education. It's one of the wrongs I hope to rectify someday.
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  CIGAR AFICIONADOS?

  by nvrgnbk in

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  what you smokin'?.

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  It's Saturday night, did you have your smoke? :) I did, had one of my A.F. Exquisitos, but the last 1/2 was kind of rough. Next time I buy a box of shorties, I'll get the Cohiba pequenos, which I usually only have at McMenamins, cause they're so damn expensive (to me). ;)
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  What kind of recliner do you like?

  by averyniceguy in

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  i am thinking of getting a brand new recliner, my recliner is 15 years old, i would like to know what kind of recliner should i consider and where are they located?

  i want a very comfortable recliner.

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  Coffee table???!!! You need a side table with a recliner! that way you never have to get up unless you're going for snacks or to the bathroom.
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  What kind of recliner do you like?

  by averyniceguy in

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  i am thinking of getting a brand new recliner, my recliner is 15 years old, i would like to know what kind of recliner should i consider and where are they located?

  i want a very comfortable recliner.

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  Lazyboy! Although Flexsteel makes some really great stuff, when I got my (2nd) LB, there was a flexsteel running a close second. Just make sure when you recline, watch that your head is fully on the chair (back/headrest) and that your heelbones don't hit the hard edge of the foot rest. Size them properly and they're comfy enough to sleep in. My hubby is only 3" taller than I am and my Lazyboy is too short for him at the foot, and uncomfortable. The plus side is that it keeps him OUT of it! muahahaha! All MINE!
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  Sextuplet parents lose appeal

  by Gayle in

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  (on globeandmail.com - google).

  sextuplet parents lose appealstaff.

  june 2, 2007. vancouver -- - the parents of sextuplets born in vancouver in january have lost an application for leave to appeal a decision that blocks them from cross-examining doctors on why blood transfusions were given to four of the surviving babies.. the parents, who are devout jehovah's witnesses, turned to the b.c.

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  So. The Baby Killers in Brooklyn aren't going to be able to interrogate the doctors who saved 4 childrens' lives about what? Why they didn't just let all 6 of them die? Good. At last somebody has some commonsense. Go Canada!
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  What do you do to fill the void?

  by R.F. in

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  i know many of you are dfed, daed, and faded.

  what do you do to fill the void of the time left that was devoted to the religion?

  i just like to know what activities you all are into.

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  I don't experience a "void" either. I finally have breathing space to pursue interests, run a business, and just hang out drinking coffee if I feel like it. Whew!
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  Jwitness roofing service blog overun with JW! Go make a comment! Plantseed

  by PaNiCAtTaCk in

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  here is the link.

  copy and paste and post.

  here is an actual post from a jw.

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  Odrade

  We are not only in the same house as when we were still active, but we are only a couple miles from the Kingdom Hall and one of the closest territories for our former congregation. Both sets of parents, as well as my brother, all live within a couple of miles from our home. My family is very well-known and well-respected among the JWs in the area, as is my husband's. His uncle is "anointed," and I'll tell you NOBODY questions that he's the "real deal." Growing up, my family was highly visible, with many assembly and convention parts. My brother had 500 people at his wedding and it was not a teenage party, these were all JWs in good standing, adults, etc. We invited about 60, and ended up with around 200 at our KH wedding.

  I don't know what island you're on, but if you're in either Kihei or Kona, it's very likely you've met my parents or my brother.

  We have almost no contact with any former JW "friends," although occasionally my mother will send one of her Witness friends to me for massage therapy. They are well aware that I am not a JW, but I doubt they know any of the rest of the story because they always treat me with respect and never try to preach to me. I wouldn't tolerate it if they did.

  But we are on the outskirts of a metropolitan area, with over 2 million residents, so we rarely see JWs, except at a distance. Twice now, they have knocked on our door with the magazines, but they don't know me, AFAIK.

  Neither my nor my husband's family are hypocrites. They are the "good" JWs, who do not lie, cheat, steal, lie, protect molestors, lie, lie and lie. (spam spam spam and spam.) They are true believers, who are giving the good talks, conducting the WT study, having "progressive" bible studies, and to give them credit, they are pretty good christians, in spite of their religious affiliation. If I expressed apostate views however, my own mother would pull the trigger. Of this I have no doubt. Fortunately, when we decided to leave the JWs, we landed here and took the advice of posters more experienced than we were, on how to pull off a successful fade. So far so good.

  We had dinner at my folks' house last Friday. It was pleasant and fairly relaxed. Yeah, there is the "elephant in the room" - their religious views, a topic we don't discuss but are always aware that it is there. We get along okay in spite of that.

  Personally, I think it is often harder to come to an "understanding" with a hypocrite than with a faithful "true believer." The hypocrite is always a moving target. Your wife's daughter-in-law does not sound like someone who is inclined to make much sense. But, as you say, it is a small community- island life- so she's not going to be able to keep the grandson away forever.