What do I do about this?

dissonance_resolved

I was in my dad's office the other day looking through some photo albums and saw my dad's super secret elder bag under the desk. Now is where I demonstrate a teenage rebellious phase that I never had due to being developmentally challenged having grown up in a cult.

I went through the bag. There were a bunch of folders on judicial cases and a notebook with my dad's personal notes from meetings with "erring ones."

Much of it was not surprising except for one thing. I found out that a very close friend of my daughter had been sexually molested multiple times by one of her relatives who was also a close friend of ours. Since there were no other witnesses, nothing happened and even I didn't know about it. This happened several years ago. There were also notes to the effect that the accused relative's dad was also a child molester. He is an active member of the congregation and a friend of our family that we see regularly. Now my husband wants to go in service today with this person and take our kids. I'm inactive and no longer go to meetings and service. I don't think my husband will believe me if I tell him this- he'll think I'm trying to underhandedly prevent him from taking the kids in service by lying about this friend. How could my own dad know this and not tell me so I could protect my kids/his grandchildren?

This is so messed up. I still can't even believe it. Please help me figure out what to do.

valkyrie

Repeat spy mission, this time with a camera phone. Sure, your husband will be appalled by your 'rebelliousness', but he'll surely appreciate your motherly protectiveness.

zebagain

ditto photocopy.

Listener

Talk to your father with your husband present. I thought they would keep this sort of paperwork securely locked.

The Searcher

When your husband and father are together -

Tell them that you know of a certain brother in the KH who has molested children, and ask them if you should report it to the police to have this evil CRIME investigated, (obey the superior authorities & Leviticus 5:1) or should you just keep quiet about it?

Your father's response will expose how he really feels about the poor victims!!

KateWild

This is a serious situation, I feel for you. I agree with Searcher, his advice is good. Go with that one. Kate xx

FL_Panthers

Pray to Jehovah!

We know the elders are there to protect us!

the elders are amazing at what they do and I'm sure everyone here agrees with me.

Xanthippe

You're having a laugh aren't you Panthers? Who were you last time?

Children are being raped. We are not laughing.

NVR2L8

Take pictures because your father may blame you for attempting to cause trouble. In his eyes the matter has been dealt with Jehovah's way...buried with no concerns for the welfare of the victims. You need to do whatever it takes to prevent your own children from becoming the next victims by telling your husband about your find. At first he may be upset that you snooped through confidential information, or he may not believe you...but any loving father would never have their children in close proximity of pedophiles. How can their grandfather not be concerned enough to warn you is beyond me...seeing his own grandchildren befriended by a pedophile!

Edited: Just read Panther's comment...either you're a clueless 15 years old or you're a total idiot...on another post you said you looked into Candace Conti's lawsuit...where were the elders for her?