What do I do about this? (page 3)

clarity

Fl_ .... "I'm sure everyone here agrees with me."

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....and I am sure that we do not!

clarity

Miss.Fit

Steve 2: I see you are taking the high ground RE: snooping. I find that ironic since many on this site has encouraged people to leak confidential materials and recordings.

I think the last thing DR needs is a lecture about ethics. It doesn't matter why she looked, what matters is her children may be exposed to a predator and her father knew and did not try to warn her.

I lived through the hell of having a foster father who was an Elder and a pedophile.

I was 12 when I found out he was abusing my sisters. I came home from meeting and found my older sister crying and cursing him.

Then she informed me that he had been abusing my little sister for YEARS. I had one more little sister he had access to.

Now tell me... would it really have made a difference if I found out by snooping in her diary or snooping in his room and found something?

The point was my baby sister was being exposed to this man. I had a decision to make.

My sisters the victims did not want to come forward. They were scared of him and of our future.

They were afraid no one would believe them. They were afraid we would be put in a state home. They were afraid he would get violent.

I was afraid he would start abusing my baby sister . I knew I could handle myself but B.S couldn't.

My problem was if they didn't back me up I would not have any proof.

I tried talking to them but they were too afraid.

That weekend he tried to get my little sister to stay home alone to "help" him. I volunteered since I was older and would be more help he didn't have a choice.

He did put the moves on me. I was able to deflect it because my sisters told me his routine. He laughed it off saying he was just being affectionate and if I said anything he said he would tell them I was exaggerating.

After that I was able to convince my sisters we had to tell. We could not protect my little sister by ourselves.

Protect your children.

Miss.Fit

DesirousOfChange

Miss.Fit,

Your personal experience makes the point clearly that a person should do whatever it takes to protect the most innocent. Failure to do that because one is worried about what will be thought of them "snooping" or "spying" would be a most unfortunate error.

Thanks for sharing that.

Doc

LogCon

The evil did not originate with you or your father.

One principle that stands on solid ground.

EXPOSE ALL EVIL !!!

LogCon

When you looked through his 'elder bag' it was not a moment of weakness.

It was a moment of strength.

losingit

No question, No doubt-- REPORT THIS IMMEDIATELY TO THE POLICE.

TAKE PICS, MAKE COPIES, AND DROP THEM OFF AT THE POLICE STATION.

Who cares that he's a family friend, that your dad is an elder, or how you found out!!!

YOU HAVE THE RESPONSIBILITY NOW OF GOING TO THE POLICE TO REPORT THIS CRIME!

A child was molested! Who knowshow many others!? You may be the only adult in that congregation of fools that will protect her!

OUTLAW

Since there were no other witnesses, nothing happened and even I didn't know about it. This happened several years ago. There were also notes to the effect that the accused relative's dad was also a child molester. He is an active member of the congregation and a friend of our family that we see regularly.

...............................................Photograph the Documents.....Call the Police.....Protect the Children..

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.......................................................... ...OUTLAW

losingit

Honestly, if you're too scared to go to the police, I WILL DO IT! Just PM me.

steve2

Miss.Fit, I take your point. But I didn't think talking about the dilemma of going through other people's personal possessions was "the high ground" - I thought it was a very commonly held point about privacy. I could be wrong - but I simply do not see any 'holier-than-thou' about it. I wouldn't snoop through a family member's personal possessions and I would be veru upset if any family member went through mine - and I have nothing to hide! It is just the thought!

I grant that now that the sensitive information has been found, it changes the situation. Besides, I do not assume that posters who are courageous enough to post their experiences are that fragile that the dilemma they have walked into cannot be honestly addressed.

Oubliette

Get the CamScanner app for your phone.

You must protect your kids, no one drinking the Kool-Aid will.

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