I would not cheat just to cheat; I would have to be in love with someone as much or more deeply than with my husband (and I would get a seperation first). No one night stand would be worth breaking up my marriage. My husband feels the same way. We have agreed to be honest if we ever fall out of love or fall in love with someone else but otherwise we do not cheat out of respect for each other. It is hard for me sometimes, because he had more experience than I did when we got married. He said to tell him if I ever feel like I am "missing out" on anything but he says that he promises to treat me better than any guy that I might meet out there. How can I argue with that? (he does) I think the reason that we're still together is that we can talk about anything honestly like that.
How do you feel about promiscuous sex?
by free2beme 93 Replies latest jw friends
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riko
these days only have promiscuous sex with Widow Palm and her 5 lovely daughters
lol, still laughing at the League of Gents reference...
I've got to say that I think it is the business of the people involved what they want to do in their life, but it can have more implications than that. My current boyfriend has had a few one-night stands in the past (before he met me) and while I know it has nothing to do with our relationship, that fact still comes up and slaps me in the face. I've never been that way, I'm no angel, but I've never had a one-night stand and doubt I'd like myself for it if I ever did. It makes me trust him less, that he could have treated sex with such casualness before, whats to stop him thinking that way now? Maybe it's my upbringing, but sex=love to me, I can't change that and also can't help disagreeing with people who just get drunk and end up in a strangers bed. I'm not saying that's the right answer and I'd never condemn someone for it, just can't change my opinion.
But hell, each to their own, as long as no-one's getting hurt. Haven't we spent enough years of our lives being judged by others?
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Crumpet
riko have you been to the chat room - http://www.cocoonbbs.com/chat/
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Justin Matton
promiscuous sex seemed cool when i was younger, til my bro got syphilus even with a condom. Not my boys
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riko
Crumpet, I just tried but I got some 'java not installed' message, can't get it to work
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Crumpet
riko - never mind. you look gorgeous in the new avatar by the way. do you have msn? pm if so and I shall be in touch
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FlyingHighNow
FHN, you always make me blush.
And you always make me feel good and to smile. I wish the world taught all of its sons to have a healthy attitude and view of men and women like yours.
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free2beme
Is this their problem? Are they unhappy with their lifestyle? I think the problem is your own. Why do you have such a poor opinion of women?
I have no problem with the human being, female variety. I question their lifestyle choice as being a good one in this day and age. It seems that as a society we have chosen to take our lives to the level of "what feels good to me, must be right as I am an adult and that is my freedom." We push it to the maximum level of what is legal and in some cases, much further past that point. In my psychology classes and human sexuality classes, we talked about these points a lot and like all things, it comes down to perspective and your own personal background. As a former Witness, I still have some strong morals. My morals tell me that having random sex with people you hardly know and care about, for nothing more then a pleasure moment is not respectful of your life and the other person's life. If that works for you though, do it. Although it is true that a lot of people grow to regret it and some use it as a form of working through love and emotional issues. I want to feel needed? I want to be touched and held? I don't want to be alone? Are common parts of a society that has basically assigned you a tax code, bracket and social security ID. Personally, I know I have an issue with this and I don't want it to change. I like my issue of seeing sex as something that should be between people who care for one another and when I see people that are not like me acting this way, I am proud that I see their behavior as wrong to the level I described. When I left the Witnesses, I did not leave the moral code I felt inside as right. I have no problem with people having sex before marriage, don't care about that one bit. Promiscuous sex is not the same thing, and that is my subject. As for the happiness these woman feel, I don't see it. They seemed confused in life, depressed, lost and any other negative I could place there to convey my thought. Most drink and party a lot, which goes with the life style. If my child grew to be life this, with this "using" other human bodies for pleasure and nothing else, I would be disappointed in him. As I think the lack of respect issue, is why we don't really care about a human life at all anymore or at least a lowering of human life value.
Although you could see how much your worth
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bull01lay
Riko:
lol, still laughing at the League of Gents reference...
My favourite LoG quote has to be "Shaking Hot White Coconuts from the Veiny Love Tree"
Bull!
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kiddotan
I would not cheat just to cheat; I would have to be in love with someone as much or more deeply than with my husband (and I would get a seperation first). No one night stand would be worth breaking up my marriage.
I agree with this, cheating is not valuing the people in your life. You want someone else, move out!
As for the happiness these woman feel, I don't see it. They seemed confused in life, depressed, lost and any other negative I could place there to convey my thought. Most drink and party a lot, which goes with the life style.
Girls I know, who are feeling this way are looking for companionship, that they just don't know how to find it any other way. Especially where i live. They don't know how else to look for a partner.
It's incredibly hard to find THE man you are wanting to spend your life with. (i've been lucky)
There are some girls who are happy to switch partners each weekend. That's the lifestyle they choose.