Marriage - Why bother? (page 2)

IMustBreakAway

Haha.. Prob not she is still pretty faithful. Also your profile says you're five months old. Though youth can be beautiful that would bother me a bit. ;-)

prophecor

Once the smoke clears from all the hot & heavy, oh I've never felt like this before, don't you know that I love you, you're my everything, I love you till the end of my..........

When you finally come back to your senses, it all kinda' drops on you like the Shock and Awe of Bush to Iraq. You realise all of a sudden, "Damn, I'm really married. How did we get here? I know I loved this person when I started out but I don't know, now. We used to be so in love. What happened?" and all the other quizzes and questions we give ourself.

Relationships take incredible amounts of work, especially when you don't want to. Love begins to reflect a different meaning when it is we have invested time money and energy to partners who we're not necessairilly sure about. It takes years for many of us to throughly know our partners. They'll wind up either growing on you, or you'll find yourself one perpetually pissed off individual because of some habits or traits our partners might have.

If your lucky, when it's all said and done, hopefully you'll find yourself in bed with someone you can endure sleeping with for the rest of your life. When all the icing comes off the cake, you really get to know who it is your dealing with.

It's the hardest of human work that can be done among individuals. Negotiations between waring countries can be easier. If you find that one person out of all that can be said and done on the planet. If your willing to take the bitter and the sweet, in spite of the harshness and hardship that's promised to come, and trust me, it will come, then you can settle into having that person in your life for as long as you may live, forever knowing that come what may, you will not need to live, or die in this world, alone.

lostlantern

Marriage is work, and it isn't always a bed of roses but it can be very rewarding. Hopefully there are more good times than bad. It is really nice to have that one person you consider your "soul-mate", you may not always see eye to eye but in the end having that kind of love is special. I enjoy having someone in my life to share my days with, my nights, and having that feeling that he is the one person I can be completely free with.

I think as a woman it feels important to be "married," it takes away that feeling in the back of your head that you can be disposable. I think if you can take the step of marriage it can open up a whole new level of your relationship because it shows you will both endevour to be committed to oneanother. I think the committment helps in the tough times.

greendawn

Half of marriages break down which means that another half work well or at lesatappear to work, its a fifty fifty gamble. It all has to do with the emotional maturity and stability in the individual. What I noticed is that religious people have more stable marriages.

AlmostAtheist

Half of marriages break down which means that another half work well or at lesatappear to work, its a fifty fifty gamble. It all has to do with the emotional maturity and stability in the individual. What I noticed is that religious people have more stable marriages.

If half are so bad that they are willing to divorce, a fair whack of those that don't must be pretty bad. A marriage can be plenty bad without going all the way into divorce. I wouldn't be comfortable calling it a 50/50 gamble. Without any stats backing it up, it's more of a sliding scale where you've got a 50% chance of misery to the point of being willing to endure divorce, another 30% of being generally unhappy, a 20% chance of feeling like you came out even on the deal, and 10% of being actually happy. (Basing this only on general observation. Error is +/- 100% :-) ) Perhaps religious people have great encumberances to breaking up unstable marriages. I've sure seen my share of unhappy JW marriages where the only thing holding them together was religion. Not divorced, but hardly stable. Dave

Snoozy

Trouble is the way the laws are today..no marriage..no benefits!

I can't in my own mind see anyone being truly commited without marriage..

The government doesn't (Usually) recognize common law marriage these days.

I just don't see any benefits to "Playing House"..why?

If you love someone..even have children..and yet you can't commit to marriage?

Doesn't make sense to me..

To me..marriage was for life....

Snoozy..married for 45 years to same guy..wasn't easy..but that's part of maturity..making it work!

Kaethra

"it's more of a sliding scale where you've got a 50% chance of misery to the point of being willing to endure divorce, another 30% of being generally unhappy, a 20% chance of feeling like you came out even on the deal, and 10% of being actually happy." The math seems a little off here. ;)

upside/down

It certainly does take "two to tango",

but only one to jerk-off...

u/d(of the married only in the lord and got f*cked class)

startingover

A friend who recently divorced after 40+ years made this comment:

"When this whole marriage thing was started, people only lived 40 years."

Thegoodgirl

Starting over: love that last comment.

Prophecor: yes, when you aren't sure about it in the fiirst place it takes a whole lot more work.

Good things about marriage: this partner for life can be such a source of stability in your life, someone to always come home to and be totally comfortable with as someone above said.

Bad things: they can totally insult you and your family, and you get so so so mad, but then you stop and think, there is absolutely nothing I can do change this person. And I will be sleeping next to them for the rest of my life

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