Awe, well since in your first post you didn't say anything about the abuse issues although I figured there was some, men are simple creatures, feed them, keep them warm, dry and horny for you and they will swim through shark infested waters to bring you a lemonade.
However my first response still stands and you are a parent first and the PROTECTION of your child/children comes above your quest for anything but a safe, secure life for them.
Stand up and be a man/father get the hell out of her clutches and protect the innocent child/children from the abusive woman.
Other than that ditto what seven006 said.......
if anyone should know it's he as he's lived/beentheredonethat I would take his words to heart.
*waves hello to Dave*