I was a JW and I'm sure my family still considers me to be one. I'm what you call a 'fader' I live 2000 miles away from my 100 or more JW relatives thereby allowing me to fade away.
I'm not worried about any type of damnation. I'm happy to be away from this controlling JW atmosphere which considers peddling magazines to be the only 'good' you can do in your life
and that all other charitable works and actions are that of the devil. I'm now able to live a somewhat normal life and be more productive away from the J-dubs.