"You have a week to Move out" PLEASE HELP! I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!! (page 2)

mkr32208

Just a thought are you sure that this 'one lie' is all there is to this? Sure your weren't ratted out Richie Rich style?

ballistic

"anyone who is a liar and not serving Jehovah whole-souled needs to leave their house." So they have announced that I have a week to move out.

I too, lived under such a threat. And the promise that I would never see any inheritance because it was all signed over to the Watchtower. Isn't it amazing how a religion (or cult) can turn people against their own children. I left at 17 of my own free will in the end.

All I can say StillaWitness is there are bound to be trials ahead whenever you leave. We are all on a learning curve. It's good that you are questioning how you will go about the detail as it shows you are not blindly reacting without forethought.

If your boyfriends as good as you say he is, the odds are in your favour... and 45 mins commuting is not far to travel for a few weeks while you find a nearer job. Hope all goes well.

stillAwitness

I've been there also and i had a nights notice, it hurt a lot. I stayed with family, could ya go and SEE your brother?

My brother lives in Boston. He stays with his dad in a 2 bedroom flat. He has his own struggles. That would be a final resort to move there. Especially b/c its near New York and I don't want to give up my goal of modeling.

stillAwitness

I just wanted to add that I was out of my house at 17 without a pot to piss in... slept on the street for a couple of nights too... but here I am...

But you're a GUY! Its so much easier for ya'll. If I end up on the streets I have to worry about being raped and stuff. Its so much scarier for us.

stillAwitness

Just a thought are you sure that this 'one lie' is all there is to this? Sure your weren't ratted out Richie Rich style?

My parents have never trusted me. My mom knows I hate the JW life and I think she's been looking for a way to get rid of me.She's a regular pionneer now and takes every chance to mention her deay out in servie with one of the young ones in her hall. I've gotten "in trouble" before. if that is what you would call it. A guy calling the house who was not a witness, my mom finding a skirt way below the 3 inches below the knee limit. The silly stuff that a jw goes fanatic over. Its really just a culmination of 5 years of hell boiling down to this moment,

prophecor

Stilla, I feel so much for what you're going thru. I don't know about your boyfriend, they can be a little tyrannical once your left out in the lurch. The whole tide has a way of turning once it is that a woman no longer has access to her security, whether it be your own, or your parents place. Do you have a girlfriend you can hook up with, or can you co-op with students or the like?

Carefully weigh all your options and be sure there is absolutely no way out before throwing all your eggs in one basket. Your parents might be trying to intimidate you into towing the line. Is there truly no other solution? Is there absolutely no way to work something out?

stillAwitness

Again,l I have a ar but its in my folks name. Wether I will be able to keep it> i dunno. If not then I am really screwed. I have a good job. If I can get it transferred to the location near my bf that would be great.

Again, does anyone know is the elders will still harass me if it is my parents who threw me out and me not just leaving? If I do leave should I tell my folks I am moving in with my "worldly bf" who they know nothing about of course????

FlyingHighNow

but I'm afraid of everything in the Real world! Afraid of paying bills, afraid of walking the streets at night, afraid of what I may become. Afraid we get to so poor that we will end up on food stamps-hell I'm afraid of the dark.

It's very normal to be afraid! I had to start all over again a few short years ago, after years of being a stay at home mom. My exhusband, a JW, divorced me because he didn't think I was submissive enough.He had a work truck, a truck, my son's car and my car. He kept all of them. I didn't get a car out of the deal. Believe me, I was afraid. I was also afraid when I first left home. I recall my oldest brother, may he rest in peace, telling me over the phone, "Ahhh, so you cut the old umbilical cord." That's exactly what you are doing in symbolic sense. Your trepidation is normal.

I'd call your parent's bluff and move out. You're young and healthy. You can make it. I'm nearly fifty with health challenges and I am making it. Right now I am unemployed drawing unemployment. Financially we have had big struggles since last year in June. We've made it though! And helped my daughter and grandsons off and on along the way.

You can do it. Try to go and live where there is rapid transit. Do you live near Atlanta?

mkr32208

I've got an old camero you can have for $1500 if you want it! Needs a bit of work but runs ok! It would make that 45 min commute a lot shorter!

serendipity

((( stilla))) Sorry they're acting this way. It seems a bit of a harsh punishment for merely lying.

All the fears you mentioned are normal, but they can be overcome. You CAN make it through this.

I think your parents are trying to teach you a lesson. I'd personally teach controlling parents a lesson. Just play it cool at home and start moving out immediately.

Call the YMCA or YWCA to see if they have rooms, which is possible in the larger cities. Find out where it's located and how much the room is. Make this call in front of one or both of your parents. Then tell one or both of your parents how bad it's going to look to the cong. when you tell your JW friends that you had to go live at the Y because that's the only place you can afford.

Start calling any JW friends you have and tell them your parents are kicking you out into the street, with little money. Tell them the only place you can afford is the Y or with a worldly friend. Tell them you'd rather not pursue those options. Ask them if you can stay awhile. Make these phone calls from home in front of your parents.

Immediately bring in some boxes, start packing your stuff , haul it out to the car and to your bf's. Just act cooly nonchalant. Don't argue with your parents. If they ask questions, tell them they've already judged you, why should you bother answering.

They may change their minds when they see you moving forward without begging to stay. At that point you have a choice.

"You have a week to Move out" PLEASE HELP! I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!!

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