Focus on getting your legs to move in the direction of the woman instead of what you're going to say...Remember, you'll be more upset if you fail to approach than if you approach and get rejected.
Okay, this part is good for the timid guy who has yet to approach the woman.
Continue to move up in the group ladder in order of attractiveness. For example, you begin talking to the men, then the women you find unattractive, and then your target....When working your group, try to ignore your target until you've made "friends" with the rest of the group.
If she tries to get your attention, call her on it. For example, say "Wow, don't you just want to be the center of attention!" or "Hey, wait your turn!". Treat her like she's the LEAST desireable in the group
until you're done working the rest of the group. This is where neg-hits come in handy, but I'll get into those later since they're not completely necessary and are easy to screw up.
IMHO, this part is bad for the timid guy who has yet to approach the woman.
Here the advice goesbeyond his getting courage up to deal on equal ground with her (and therefore, to feel equal to the task of approaching her). Here it crosses over into him making her feel on LESS equal ground with him (lesser than him). [Him: "It's not your turn till I say it's your turn...I don't want you...you're not worthy of my notice till I SAY you're worthy of my notice. ...Okay--now you're worthy of my notice."] This is where it first crosses into negative game-playing. It attempts to create a one-up, one-down dynamic from the get-go. NOT GOOD!!!
This kind of thing can be just gentle, good-natured ribbing once a genuine rapport is already established, but used prematurely--and especially as part of a 'game plan' to hook someone in--it smacks of alpha-dog dominance tactics. [red flag: potential abuser, quite frankly] Not smart for a guy to try to OVERcompensate in how he deals with a female. [She's most desirable; he needs to make her feel least desirable---NO.]
What Nosferatu is encouraging here is producing a fake version of a 'nice guy'--someone who genuinely is outgoing and personable enough to approach a table, chat with whomever's there, show genuine interest in them as individual people, and also considers others around him enough to NOT ZERO IN on one person immediately. That's it.
The neg-hits, and pushing her aside if she tries join conversation, are TOTALLY unnecessary (and even damaging). It is also likely to backfire, especially with women who are accustomed to being the target and already know this game. If it smells like a game, it will be a TURN OFF.
Better to focus on creating equal, level ground interaction than to try to 'tilt' the ground to support a one-up, one-down dynamic.
Or perhaps Nosferatu needs to emphasize the playful spirit necessary to motivate and successfully carry off such an approach, for such an approach not to offend. And here, again, it would have to be a genuine playfulness. That's my objection to most of this, I guess-----the total lack of (or what seems like total lack) of regard for just being g-e-n-u-i-n-e.
