The love of your life "cheats" on you....could you forgive?

by new boy 53 Replies latest watchtower beliefs

  • Abandoned
    Abandoned

    I don't know how to answer this right now. I would have to go with my gut. If they said they were sorry, but still running around like they were before it happend and getting involved in the same situations that lead up to it.... Bye bye....

    If they were willing to go to couple's counseling and took ownership of what they did and the effect their action had on the trust we used to enjoy, I think I would be willing to give it a go.

    The key is, if it happened because they would rather be out of the shackles of a marriage or relationship, then it most likely IS going to happen again and they might as well save both parties the heartache by just ending it. If it really was a fluke or a combination of amazing coincidences, then I think there would be enough of a foundation left to attempt a recovery.

  • tetrapod.sapien
    tetrapod.sapien

    forgive? for sure.

    i am not convinced that monagamy is the naturally occuring state in humans that some people seem to think it is, or even should be.

    if you must own, then it's because you must also be owned.

    if you do not inflict ownership, then you do not need to be owned either.

    why is it such a horrible thing that the person you love wants to share their body with with another human? why should you feel bad if you want to as well?

    like, big deal.

    then again, it's probably all biochemistry anyways. researchers are showing that people who naturally produce greater amounts of oxytocin are the people who stay together for 50 years.

    (sigh) ....alas, the way of mammals.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oxytocin

    tetra

  • Sparkplug
    Sparkplug

    It is a good thing I am out of topics because I am on a roll now...(in my head)

  • mouthy
    mouthy

    Gayle you can hear my testimony on the above where they have all our testimonys from PA Mine is under Grace Gough "He knocked at my door I answered" Thank you for your kind words....makes life worth living.
    At the moment I am sitting in a freezing apartment....it is 15 below & I can understand where old folks die of whats it called Hypo????something or other LOL

  • Sparkplug
    Sparkplug
    it is 15 below & I can understand where old folks die of whats it called Hypo????something or other LOL

    Mouthy where is you r heat?

  • LittleToe
    LittleToe

    I would ask the following four questions:

    1. Is marriage about ownership or is it about securing some legal rights for a "family" unit?
    2. Is marriage about lust or love and companionship?
    3. Is beauty found in the body or in the head?
    4. Is the preference sex or chocolate?

    We all do some pretty nasty things with our bodies every day, from ablutions to boogers, but it doesn't stop us wanting to grow old with someone.

  • mouthy
    mouthy

    Mouthy where is you r heat?

    It is supposed to be a heated apartment ---I just moved in April so it is my first cold time here. I pay $885.00 going up to 908.01 in April... But I am looking for another apartment ....Or else maybe I will go into an old folks home.... the thought scares me. But what to do? what to do? Yes I am praying about it.... We will see.... My friends are all calling me telling me to keep warm ( but not too warm>Hell) lol
    Sorry to bore you with my problems. at this point I wish I had a cheating lover.( not mine someone elses LOL)..He might keep me warm

  • Abandoned
    Abandoned
    Sorry to bore you with my problems. at this point I wish I had a cheating lover.( not mine someone elses LOL)..He might keep me warm

    ROFLMAO! You are too precious mouthy.

    About the heat. Where do you live? Don't they have any assitance for the elderly there? I bet if it were known you were going with low heat, people would stop up and help out. I know I would. Yeah, that's right, I have your address....

  • Sparkplug
    Sparkplug

    Abandonned.....is she close to you?

    I wish I had a cheating lover.( not mine someone elses LOL)..He might keep me warm

    Mouthy..you are so bad. Where have I heard that? Anybody close enough to go warm her up? I will check back. I am on my way to bath me madre.

  • Abandoned
    Abandoned
    Abandonned.....is she close to you?

    No, but she'll be getting a letter in a couple days.

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