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The love of your life "cheats" on you....could you forgive?
by new boy 53 Replies latest watchtower beliefs
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SixofNine
I guess the short answer from me is a qualified: Yes, I think so. As a witness, I think I was able to do an ok job at forgiving in that situation. So if I could do it as a witness, surely I could do even better as a non-witness?
The truth is, I can relate to virtually all the comments on this thread; and the only ones I know are definitely NOT how I would deal at this point in my life, are the ones on opposite sides of the equation, ie: a) it's no big deal, or b) it's an automatic dealbreaker. But frankly, I can even understand where both of those positions come from.
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Purza
My inital response is "no, the relationship would be over". But I do not know how I would react in a situation like that because it has never happened to me before -- so I can't say for sure. However, I do know the trust would be gone and without trust in a relationship -- forget it. The relationship is doomed IMHO.
I have a friend who "forgave" her boyfriend, but she has never forgotten and she has some serious trust issues. She is forever checking his VM, email, etc. Not a way I would want to live.
Purza
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rassillon
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No way. The relationship would be poisoned from that day forward....there would be constant, unspoken resentment and bitterness. I just wouldnt want to be in a relationship like that.
Sometimes I don't agree with you, but this time you are spot on. It would be unfair for my wife because I would resent her and bring it up everytime anything happened. It would be better for us both to just go our seperate ways. -r