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lola28

No I didnt, because I was still basing my decisions back then on the belief in Armageddon. I rushed into marriage, trying to have the normal things of life before I was destroyed.

Yes you did, you chose not to.

Junction-Guy

I chose not to, based on the lies I was taught.

lola28

1993,1994,1995,1996,1997,1998,1999,2000,2001,2002,2003, you get my point.

Lola

Junction-Guy

Yes i get your point, but I dont think it is fair for you to be judging me, when you only know an inkling of my life and my marriage these past years.

lola28

Yes i get your point, but I dont think it is fair for you to be judging me, when you only know an inkling of my life and my marriage these past years.

And I think it is unfair for you to tell me not to form an opinion based on what you have posted. You cant post something on here and then say "Now don't you judge me!" maybe I'm telling you things you don't want to hear but you posted this on a public forum, what did you expect?

Lola

Junction-Guy

What is your purpose for even posting on this thread? Im trying to regain some happiness that I once had, and you are trying to hinder me. So why are you doing this? What purpose does it suit for you to try to make me feel guilty about things?

Crumpet

Lola - whats up with the hounding hon? There's making a point and there's making a point...

No I didnt, because I was still basing my decisions back then on the belief in Armageddon. I rushed into marriage, trying to have the normal things of life before I was destroyed.

I completely understand this. I also believe that once you discover Armageddon is never coming it takes a period of adjustment to overcome the anger and grief for what you have lost. This can take years and a therapist will tell you it is completely proper and healthy for you to do this. I found out the truth about 2 years ago and its taken that time to actually start working on the future that I have now.

Junction-Guy

Thanks Crumpet. I just dont see why she keeps hounding this. Im a very hurting guy, and Im trying my best to get on with my life. Its very difficult sometimes. Im just hanging on as best as I can right now.

free2think

I completely understand this. I also believe that once you discover Armageddon is never coming it takes a period of adjustment to overcome the anger and grief for what you have lost. This can take years and a therapist will tell you it is completely proper and healthy for you to do this. I found out the truth about 2 years ago and its taken that time to actually start working on the future that I have now.

Sorry to be a little off topic, but I completely agree with you here Crumpet. Even though I discovered the troof about six months ago I am still coming to turns with the anger and sense of loss, not only of the future but also the years wasted in the borg. So much so that I'm going to start counselling again ( did it before when I was a dub, but didn't realise being a dub was the real issue).

lola28

You are right Crumpy, JG I apologize for my behavior (sorry just not my day), I honestly do believe that you have a good chance of getting all the things you want, a good job a wife and kids hell I'll even throw in a white picket fence, but I think you will only get these things if you work on making yourself feel better on on finally being able to let go of the past. I'm not saying you have to forget where you've been I'm just saying you can not let it continue to influence where you are going and I'm afraid that if you continue to dwell on the past you'll never be able to move on.

Lola

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