"Decent" itself is an interesting, value-loaded word. So, too, are words like "average", comfortable", "normal", and "guilty". A look at one dictionary shows the following range in meanings for each, in alphabetical order we find: "Average": generally prevailing; ordinary; medial [in the middle] estimate. "Comfortable": such as to obviate [clear away, neutralize] hardship, save trouble, & promote content, ministering to comfort; at ease, free from hardship, pain, & trouble; tranquil [calm, not agitated], with easy conscience. "Decent": seemly, not immodest or obscene or indelicate; respectable; passable, good enough, tolerable; kind, not severe or censorious [fault-finding, over-critical]. "Guilty": criminal, culpable [blameworthy]; having committed a particular offence. "Normal": conforming to standard, regular, usual, typical. Choice is about whose standards and values you take; one person's ideals may be the next one's discards.
My plan--fully revealed
by Junction-Guy 149 Replies latest jw friends
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Q. Bert
Sorry, I was so slow in putting my thoughts down. They're now 3 posts above.
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Junction-Guy
Thanks QBert, and my "choice" since 1994 was to discard my Dad and Stepmoms values, and have no regrets there.
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Q. Bert
Now that we know who/what we've discarded, we can choose who/what has held us in good stead. We'll likely show our appreciation by inviting them back in our life if we can.
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junctions-wife
Can I put my 2 cents in now? I would have never left if you had just told me eveything that was going on in your head. I knew what going on in your heart. But not your mind. I tried years ago to get therapy. But you always thought that wasn't a good thing. I really would have done anything to save our mariage. I was ready to fight for it. And maybe I still am.
Amanda
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Junction-Guy
Amanda, I never thought counseling would work unless I was able to fully lay things on the line with the counselor. That is why I never wanted to do the counseling thing. I was too embarassed to tell you these things that I have suffered. I never even told Darin or Mom until recently.
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junctions-wife
I know. But look at what it cost us. The one good thing we had going has been put on hold or, off all together.
amanda
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Junction-Guy
Yeah I know, and that is one of the painful regrets that I have. If I had a way to tell the future back then, I could have known. I figured that you would just reject me, and I couldnt bear the tought of losing you. When you finally did leave and up until you moved to Kansas, I came really close, as you probably recall our last converstion in the car going to Mcdonalds that morning.
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junctions-wife
yeah I know. But if I had known back then what I know now I would have never left.
amanda
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Junction-Guy
I know that Amanda, and I wish I could go back and change things. We can talk more about this later, Im getting ready for work now. Get a good nights rest.
Dave