Had that darn "weights" dream!

by MsMcDucket 50 Replies latest jw friends

  • J-ex-W
    J-ex-W

    The sleep paralysis thing...this is why I asked at the beginning of this thread if you meant a dream dream or hovering between waking and sleeping states--because it's during the latter that sleep paralysis will take place, either upon going down to sleep or coming out of it, or even both.

    I deal with delayed sleep phase syndrome and the sleep paralysis thing. Both the delayed sleep phase and the sleep paralysis is part of what helped my ex-husband get away with slowly and carefully raping me in my sleep, without waking me--or without my being able to react, even when I woke up to what was happening.

    I would also sometimes go right back to sleep again after waking up to the knowledge of it, because of the pure exhaustion of trying to keep a regular day schedule with this night-oriented body clock. [Like chronic third shift work fatigue--only for ME, the first shift (day time) is actually what feels like 'third.']

    We talked about it one time--ostensibly after he had stopped doing this for some time--and he told me that the number of times he had actually done it and gotten away with it was actually higher than the number of times I was guessing based on waking recollections.

    SICK, SICK, SICK !!!!!!!!!!! --Sorry....I know it's a bit off topic...............but I want people out there to understand and know that this horrible stuff DOES happen, and to be able to understand a little bit about how it IS possible, since so many have the mistaken belief that a woman cannot be raped in her sleep.

    So...yes...if you're talking about a recurring dream, that's one thing (PTSD-related, most likely)...but if you're talking about conscious wake-sleep hover states, that's a sleep disorder. Sorry I didn't say anything on it earlier...I was too exhausted and needing to go down for a bit... (Go figure!)

    Edit: And BTW, there was no chemical substance of any kind involved, not even sleeping pills. Just plain, pure exhaustion.

  • MeneMene
    MeneMene

    When I was 19 my best friend had one of these "dreams". She called me terrified and I went over to talk to her. She was convinced it was a demon.

    She had been temporarily paralysed when she "woke" up and she thought her little dog was too because neither of them could move. Her father fixed old clocks and she was just sure one of the clocks he took in had a demon in it.

    I had never heard of this happening to anyone else. Now 40 years later I find out what it was.

    JWD is so great. Thanks MsMcD

  • MsMcDucket
    MsMcDucket
    JWD is so great. Thanks MsMcD

    You're welcome MeneMene. I just tell all my business! I'm glad it's helping you all.

    J-ex-W have you read about sexsomnia?

  • J-ex-W
    J-ex-W
    J-ex-W have you read about sexsomnia?

    Never heard of it. What is it?

  • MsMcDucket
    MsMcDucket

    J-ex-W here ya go!

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    Participate in research (a brief survey): on sleep, sex and crime [ click here ] b y Ulf-Dietrich Reips*, Mike Mangan**, *Universität Zürich, Switzerland **University of New Hampshire, USA


    Sexual behavior in sleep (SBS)Sleepsex, "sleep sex" or "sexsomnia" or "SBS" is sexual behavior that occurs during sleep. Some people seem to enjoy it and view it with a sense of humor. However, it can be disturbing, annoying, embarrassing and is a potentially serious problem for some couples and individuals. Read the following experiences provided by two visitors to this site:

  • J-ex-W
    J-ex-W

    Yeah, MsMcD-------------- I just looked it up.

    NO. This was not the case with my ex.

    Nice try, giving him the benefit of the doubt, though...it's what I tried to do with his pattern of abusive behaviors over the years, too. It just shows you have a good heart and cannot comprehend someone being so selfish and heinous to do this kind of thing to another person on purpose. Bless your heart!!

    No..... My ex-husband was sexually abusive (and otherwise abusive toward me as well) at all hours, waking, fully conscious, and fully in control of his decisions, though he would have liked the better-guy (not good-guy, but better-guy) image that 'admission' of temporary 'loss of control' would seem to give him...........

    No..... For the first several years we were married, he would start the sexual harrassment and sexual groping, literally daily--and literally within TWO MINUTES of walking in the front door. I could time it on the clock. I kid you not. Including groping my private parts in front of our two toddler age sons. Over the years, I complained about it enough that he eventually slowed it down, so that it would begin within TEN MINUTES of his walking in the door...and I could still time it on the clock...........

    No...it's no sleep disorder with him. It's a sick, sick, sick, personality disorder that perpetuates these behaviors in him.

    Edit to add: And I don't mean groping my rear!!

  • MsMcDucket
    MsMcDucket

    J-ex-W, I'm saying have you had a sleep study?

  • J-ex-W
    J-ex-W
    J-ex-W, I'm saying have you had a sleep study?

    Huh? What does this article on sexsomnia have to do with my sleep disorder? I'm confused now.

  • MsMcDucket
    MsMcDucket
    Huh? What does this article on sexsomnia have to do with my sleep disorder? I'm confused now.

    You have to find out what prevented you from waking up during sex. You have some sort of parasomnia? What's the name of it?

  • MsMcDucket
    MsMcDucket

    The stories include recurrent bouts of sleep-eating, sleep-driving, sleep-walking, violent dream enactments, and night terrors that often result in day-time fears and anxieties. Sleep Runners shares these stories first hand and provides insight on diagnosis and treatment from two of the pioneering doctors in the field of Parasomnias. The subjects and their family members share courageous stories of self-diagnosis, their ways of coping, and their intriguing journeys of perseverance that have led them to recovery and a renewal of life, after receiving proper medical intervention. Sleep Runners will give you a better understanding of Parasomnias, enabling you to seek help for yourself or for someone you know.

    www.sleeprunners.com

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