by MsMcDucket 50 Replies latest jw friends
One of my bad nightmares
I have told my husband to never give me the phone while I'm asleep or awake me to answer the phone because half the time I don't know what the hell I said or who I was talking to. Well, one time he gave me the phone and I think that someone from JWD had called me. This person has always been nice to me, and I was a total ogre on the phone! I don't know if it happened or not. In my dream, it was Snoozy that I was talking too.
Snoozy did this happen?
You have to find out what prevented you from waking up during sex. You have some sort of parasomnia? What's the name of it?
What kept me from waking was my pure EXHAUSTION from the perpetual, cumulative sleep deficit that results from having delayed sleep phase syndrome and needing to keep up with daytime obligations--plus my physical health being stressed to the maxxxxx with a physical at-home mom workload that my petite, bad-back body was never cut out for (and which was worsening exponentially at the same time, eventually requiring a second surgery), plus the drain on sleep which occurs in conjunction with other unusual health problems that I have as well. [Here's a fun one: Look up erythromelalgia.]
Also: He used very deliberate, careful methods purposefully so as to N-O-T wake me...because he knew I didn't want it (and had told him no before falling asleep, because I was too tired, sick, or we'd been arguing, or whatever). He was using stealth measures to begin with, and my sleep-disordered situation aided his 'quest.'
As for the sleep study: I have seen a neurologist, who determined [and this I've known, by my own research, for years] that--withOUT doing a sleep lab test, because I have too many factors in the mix that could be affecting my sleep (including chronic pain)...so that it would be impossible to perform a 'true' sleep test--delayed sleep phase syndrome is what she feels I have. [Those symptoms have existed for me since long before any of these other conditions really came to the fore.]
I told her, "Thank you for saying that!! I've been saying that for years and years, and now I finally have some confirmation for it." The sleep paralysis is not the same thing as parasomnias. That runs rampant on my ex-husband's side of the family. On mine, it's insomnia, delayed sleep phase syndrome, restless leg syndrome, and sleep apnea.
(Sorry this took so long to get back to you. I got a phone call after you posted.)
Edit: A few minor edits have been added above.
One of my bad nightmares
I have told my husband to never give me the phone while I'm asleep or awake me to answer the phone because half the time I don't know what the hell I said or who I was talking to. Well, one time he gave me the phone and I think that someone from JWD had called me. This person has always been nice to me, and I was a total ogre on the phone! I don't know if it happened or not. In my dream, it was Snoozy that I was talking too.
Snoozy did this happen?
LOL !!! Now you sound exactly like my mom--although, hers is sleeping pill induced. When I first married my ex, I didn't know that he/ his family had this thing with talking in their sleep. I used to carry on entire conversations with him and make decisions based on those conversations, only to find out he had been asleep the entire time, and had NO IDEA what we were on about..........
He and his sister used to carry on sleep-conversations that could be heard by their brother in the room between them, both of them sleeping throughout. "J----, what book are we studying tonight?" "I don't know...some cookbook or something." The stories throughout that family get absolutely hilarious!!! I haven't told you anywhere NEAR the best stuff............ ROFL
erythromelalgia
I'm nurse, so I'm going to try to figure that word out before I look it up. Erytho (red blood cells), mel (possibly muscles, but that would be myo, hmmm), algia (pain). Painful muscles and red blood cells! Nah! I better look it up! Girl, being off work is making me rusty!
Main Entry: eryth·ro·mel·al·giaPronunciation: -m
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Function: noun
: a state of excessive dilation of the superficial blood vessels of the feet or more rarely the hands accompanied by hyperemia, increased skin temperature, and burning pain
Almost sounds like Raynaud's.
erythromelalgiaI'm nurse, so I'm going to try to figure that word out before I look it up. Erytho (red blood cells), mel (possibly muscles, but that would be myo, hmmm), algia (pain). Painful muscles and red blood cells! Nah! I better look it up! Girl, being off work is making me rusty!
It's okay that you're struggling with this--pretty much everybody in the medical field is. LOL My osteopath told me he went to a convention with about 400 medical docs there, and they had a symposium on six different inflammatory disorders. EM (erythromelalgia) was one of them. At the end of the discussion about this rare and little known disorder, the speaker asked the audience if anyone had ever heard of this disease. A few raised their hands. Then he asked if anyone has everknown anyone or treated anyone with this disorder. My doc raised his hand. He was the only one. He said, "I raised my hand because of YOU." --Imagine having something that a room full of 400 doctors can't get you any medical advice or insight or diagnosis on....because almost NOBODY has heard of it......... Pain clinics are the best acquainted with the disorder. And then the other goofy health conditions I'm dealing with are also rarel and little known and little understood. A patient in this position ends up wasting YEARS being treated for, or suspected of, psychiatric conditions which they DO NOT HAVE!!!!!! (Sorry...I'm venting now, since you've said you're in the medical field. I think it's important that medical people know these kinds of unusual situations DO exist.............)
Almost sounds like Raynaud's.
They are related, and can occur in conjunction. It involves dysfunction of the central nervous system (hyper-excitablility AND excess of pain signals in response to normally NON-painful stimuli--in this case, temperature changes and pressure) as well as the circulatory system. It can be inherited (as mine is) or secondary to other medical conditions or caused by medical treatment side effects. (in which case, it's not 'true' EM, just symptoms mimicked)
Don't know 'bout the sleep disorders et al
But I do recall the fearful dreams of being paralyzed into inaction. I had them long ago when I was a young un, still a dub. In the dream, I would go about my dream business always with the uneasy feeling that someone or something was "watching" or about to happen. Sure enough, "zero hour" would hit and though I knew I had to run or get safe, I was suddenly paralyzed, unable to move, despite desperately wanting to do so. It was if some unknown force was out to get me and I was powerless even to move.
Looking back, I'm unsure if it was due to the psych influence the dub world perpetrated or if it was because of the insecurities of being young and unsure of myself. I now think it was both, reinforcing one another.
I haven't had such dreams since leaving and/or becoming an adult.
Just my opinion
(Sorry...I'm venting now, since you've said you're in the medical field. I think it's important that medical people know these kinds of unusual situations DO exist.............)
You don't have to tell me. My husband was misdiagnosed and lost his leg and half his pelvis. My mother didn't get diagnosed for a goiter regrowth that ultimately killed her. And I won't tell you about me. . . basically they don't know what it is. That's why I'm off work.
I thought I had AIDS or hepatitis because of working with patients with these diseases. Nope, it is not that. I think the doctor/s is waiting for something to blow up so they can diagnose it.
Yeah, Twitch, what you're describing is an entirely different kettle of fish. Dreams like that usually are rooted in some kind of emotional turmoil, the mind/ body needing the dream action as some kind of a chemical 'release' from the internal stressors (and, I'm guessing) cascades of stress chemicals resulting therefrom. THAT, is normal.
