by minimus 50 Replies latest jw friends
I knew of a girl who allowed a male friend to sleep overnight and clearly had no sexual anything with him but because she refused to "admit" her sin, she was df'd. Years later after not being able to talk to her JW family, she "repented" and falsely admitted to her sin and got reinstated.
WTF!? That's got to be one of the most horrible JW stories I've ever heard minimus!
Nvr
On The Way Out-----Why don't you just get out because you KNOW it's the right thing? You don't need validation from another. Be a man and face it. Don't try to salve yourself by hoping to get others to do your work. Once you do it, it is LIBERATING!!!!
Ditto on what minimus said, OTWO. Just get it over with already man. It feels great!
Nvr
OTWO, I was a bit confused. You are no longer an elder. I missed that by the acct. My bad.
OOPS! My badder OTWO! Just hate the thought of seeing anyone linger on in that soul-consuming dungeon of a cult.
Much respect,
Nvr
I knew of a girl who allowed a male friend to sleep overnight and clearly had no sexual anything with him but because
she refused to "admit" her sin, she was df'd. Years later after not being able to talk to her JW family, she "repented" and
falsely admitted to her sin and got reinstated.
My opinion only. The girl was not telling you everything, Min.
It doesn't have the 'ring of truth' to it. What she is not saying is one of these:
a) the guy told someone that something DID happen.
b) the actual charge was not fornication, but something else.
c) that regardless of the charges or evidence, she was DF'ed for lying or not cooperating with the JC.
d) that she decided to skip an appeal because of something she had done or said.
I could be wrong, but a committee should not go after someone unless there is an accuser.
The accuser would be an innocent spouse or the other party involved. It would be overstepping their
bounds to accuse a single person of this just because they were in the same home (or even same
room) overnight. If everybody denies the accusation, and there isn't a damaged spouse, there is no
reason to do this.
My main concern on the case I was involved with, was that WTS has become such a legalistic organization.
I can think legalistically, and JC training has done that. They really would need to be careful in this case.
The story of a young sister. She was a single parent that had recently come in. She confessed to a single act with a worldly man , not an ongoing relationship.
My wife and I looked after her little boy while she was at the committee meeting. It seemed open and shut to be a case for reproof. Imagine my surprise when she turned up in tears to collect the boy and had been d.f'd.. I can only imagine that she had been so scared by the experience that she failed to express her repentance, as she had to us. She had no idea what to do. I incurred the annoyance of the other elders by helping her draft a letter of appeal.
The appeal committee threw out the original decision and it was then reproof. But they always had a down on her after that. Last I heard she had faded
BTW they even cocked up the reproof announcement. Can you imagine saying the wrong sisters name ? The other one was shocked beyond belief , being a strait laced type . It was like your worst nightmare . But we and the guilty sister collapsed in giggles and the effect of any reprimand was lost
The appeal committee threw out the original decision and it was then reproof. But they always had a down on her after that. Last I heard she had faded
I have never heard of this hapening before.
To this day I'm really unclear as to why I was disfellowshipped. I didn't even really know it was a judicial committee I was facing! I thought we were clearing up some wrong ideas they may have had about why I wasn't willing to live with my alcoholic wife. (She never was disciplined for anything. She died being chased by police when stopped for drunk driving.) I was asked to step outside for a moment. When I went back in I was told I was disfellowshipped! I was too stunned to think clearly. Now I wish I could go back and simply ask, "Umm, may I ask WHY? What am I being charged with? What proof do you have? How do you have the gonads to accuse me?" etc etc. But, hindsight is 20/20
I know of a brother who was about to be apppointed MS. He told the elders he masturbated and wanted to wait until the next CO visit. They said sure. His career was over from that point on.
He was stripped of all privilleges and told to pray more. He married a bad witness woman and had mental problems, never to recover from telling the truth at 19.
