First Date Etiquette (page 3)

ninja

hey zagor...shouldn't that be marital arts?...he he

zagor

hey zagor...shouldn't that be marital arts?...he he

LOL!
Well that is what she is doing now :p

recently I was browsing through some books and came across a really good one - The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker. Its about "survival signals that protect us from violence". It was published in 1997 so you may have read it already. I found it facinating and very helpful.

Hope you enjoy your date

bernadette

ninja

what do you call a girl who sets fire to her electricity bill?...burn a debt..(bernadette)...I'll get my coat

bernadette

lol

Ingenuous

Crumpet, just be very, very careful. You sound like you're keeping control of things, just be sure you are never in a setting where you could be stranded or incapable of extracting yourself from the situation. The Gavin deBecker book is a good one - and not just for first dates!

And somewhere in the midst of all this - have fun!

do not discuss your stamp collection...philately will get you nowhere....

LOL!

Crumpet

Thanks all for your kind advice! I am home safe at last. It was a long interesting and beautiful day in the splendid grounds of Blenheim palace.

I feel rather strange after it all - almost a bit weepy. She seemed to think I had some spiritual significance and a special kind of light about me which helps people. I tried to laugh it off, but she was too wise to let me get away with that. I'm probably tired but I began to get an inkling of how Moses might have felt when God said he had to lead Israel. Anyway I dont believe in god as we all know and if he does exist he picked the wrong girl totally.

The funny thing is she doesnt believe in god either. Its very hard to explain but there was a moment where I felt overwhelmingly sad and responsible for things that I can't even begin to get my head round.

Please please please dont let this be some weird spiritual epiphany - I dont want one. I just want regular orgasms and to help people be happy thank you very much!

Okay I am going to bed - clearly I am tired and emotional! You'll all find out at Dallas that I am totally not special at all and just plain old me.

sass_my_frass

Wow, it sounds like you really made a connection. Okay, I vote in favour of many orgasms, but if in the meantime you happen to meet people whose company makes you feel special and important, don't be surprised, because you are special. Even right here you inspire people who you've never even met (I for one). Being loved for who you are doesn't mean you have a role or responsibilities to play.

Crumpet

Oh thank you sassy! I always look forward to when you post - you are always disarmingly frank which I love. There is no BS with you and I really value that.

Wow, it sounds like you really made a connection. Okay, I vote in favour of many orgasms, but if in the meantime you happen to meet people whose company makes you feel special and important, don't be surprised, because you are special. Even right here you inspire people who you've never even met (I for one). Being loved for who you are doesn't mean you have a role or responsibilities to play.

I can't get this woman out of my head now. It feels like we met for a reason. She told me that when she found me on a dating site for women, which I joined a very long time ago for fun and hardly ever visited, she was drawn to approaching me at a time when she felt really really low, possibly her lowest and most negative about life and that I made her laugh with what I had written in my profile. Me going to meet her, was something so out of he ordinary for me I can't say, but I felt impelled to do it. So whatever the connection is it feels almost fateful which I dont believe in - that she needed me at this moment in time and perhaps I needed her and what she can teach me. What she taught me is that I can in fact spend a very long time talking - about 8 hours in all and have a better capacity for listening than I thought without getting trollied (UK slang for inebriated). I am sure we will see each other again, although I feel its going to take me a while to recover from the intensity of the meeting.

nvrgnbk

Happy for you Crumpet! Time will tell what this develops into, perhaps nothing, perhaps a life-changing experience for the both of you. I have learned to take odd connections very seriously. I think you should be, as you seem to be, open to it. Best of luck!

Nvr

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