Great advice on the way out. Old Goat Eh?
Baa, Baa, or is that a sheep? LOL.
Respectfully,
The Wanderer
Can You See Yourself With Someone Nearly 20 Years Your Junior?
by The wanderer 62 Replies latest jw friends
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The wanderer
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ninja
you could put her off gently by saying.....would you trim my nose hairs every morning?...I find some bits hard to get to....and then say...when you pass the pharmacy on the way home...can you pop in and get my incontinence pants?....well it works for me.....
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The wanderer
Ninja: Too Funny! LOL The Wanderer
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ButtLight
If people see us together they will say I love
your daughter and then I will say that's my
girlfriend not my daughter.That happened to me and my bf. I am 13 years younger than he is. So, we are at the state fair one day, and a guy yells out from behind one of the game booths "Sir, dont you want to come win a teddy bear for your daughter?"
I never laughed so hard in my life! But my Bf takes it as a compliment!
I would say go ahead and date for a while, and see how you feel then.
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The wanderer
Dear Friends:
Thank you for the advice. After seeing a few
replys I am leaning toward what on the way out
has suggested.
I do not want to break her heart by any means
however, at the same time I have to be realistic
regarding this issue.
I will reinforce how dear she is too me, but
mention in nice way that she would be better
off with someone else.
Thank you all again.
Respectfully,
The Wanderer -
needproof
Juni has a good point, I would take her advice. What is good on the eyes is often not good for you.
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Bumble Bee
I've seen it done before. My step mother was 17 years younger than my father. They loved each other very much, and even though there were rocky times, and fights (like in every marriage) their love carried them through some very difficult times.
And yes, they did occasionally get the father-daughter comments - but my father was a big man, strong, and he set them straight pretty quickly! lol (And really that was only in the beginning of their marriage, once my step mom got a little older that very rarely if ever came up.)
If she is someone that you feel you would want to date because of who she is, her personality, her qualities, don't let age come in the way of what could be a wonderful relationship.
BB
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The wanderer
I am with you needproof. BumbleBee thank
you for your perspective on the matter
as well.
Respectfully,
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Paralipomenon
21 is still a bit immature. She might be sick of the mind games the males play with women in her own age group and is looking for someone more mature.
On the flip side, what attracts you to her? Is your interest piqued because she's so much younger or does she have qualities that you actually find appealing? 50 years ago it was seen as taboo for different races to intermarry. People gave up love for the opinion of what others would think.
If you are mainly concerned with how it would be perceived then I think you are doing yourself a disservice.
That said, I would keep an ear open to see what she finds attractive about you. Is it you, or the perceived stability of a more mature man? In essence, I'd say give it a shot if you think it has a chance, but by now you have enough experience to realize the warning signs.
Dating doesn't = marriage. It's to test the waters to see if a longer term relationship is worthwhile. -
The wanderer
Tremendous Comments Parlip:
She mentions she does not like "boys" in her
age group because of all the head games and
they are interest in one thing.
"Is it you, or the perceived stability of a more mature man?"- Parlip
In addition, she claims she likes older men
"daddy figures".
We get along well and she is an intelligent
individual which I find very attractive
and she feels the same way toward me.
That is probably the biggest common bond
we share. The intellectual matters. She
is a very good communicator which I find
equally attractive.
However, the age difference is a killer
considering that I am nearly her father's
age.
Respectfully,
The Wanderer