Can You See Yourself With Someone Nearly 20 Years Your Junior? (page 6)

jaguarbass

Hello Wanderer, Heres my 2 cents from my perspective. Some women are looking for a man. The most desirable man is not always someone their age. They are sizeing you up just as you are sizeing them up.

As far as the problem issue, if it has tits or wheels you will have problems with it. But that shouldnt stop you thats the way it is for everybody.

I'm 54 and where I work there are 4 women in their 20's that have shown an interest in me. I am married so I dont plan on going anywhere with their overtures. When I think about it, I conclude they see me as someone who is stable, and financially sound. Thier contemporaies are the ones that left them with the children and the bills. So I guess they see me as a sugar daddy. But you know what, I see them as, a young piece of meat. And if I was in the market. I'd take a look. And enjoy the ride.

You say you would have to love someone to sleep with them. Do you mean you would have to lust them? Love is a strong affection, so I guess you have to get to know them. So you start with an attraction. If you feel you could be arroused by the female, then you go to step 2 and ask her out for a date and you get to know her. When you get to know her and you are attrated to her, then you decide do you love or abhor that person. If you love that person then you can sleep with them.

Or if you like complications ask her to marry you and take half your assets. Then how do you know if she loves you or wants half your assets? I have a lawyer friend, he always says over and over, all relationships are based on quid quo pro. Something for something. What you bring to the table and what they bring to the table. Marriage is legalized prostitution for many. You provide shelter and care she provides a warm body. quid quo pro.

If none of this makes sense, you could just ask your male friend you saved from the troof to go to disney world with you and save a lot of hassel.

There will be problems with a girl friend in her 20's, There will be problems with a girlfriend in her 30's, 40's, 50's, 60's. Just pick your problems because they got em.

I'm not down on girlfriends or marriage, Ive been married to the same women since 72, I wouldnt trade her for the moon.This is just the way I see it.

If you want to get right to the gist of it find the perfect woman and perfect situation. Go to e harmony.com But life is the journey not the destination and these kind of problems and discussions are what make life interesting.

Good luck Richard.

HadEnuf

http://i52.photobucket.com/albums/g34/Zollski/IMG_2358.jpg Okay...since I am unable to figure out how to post this pic here...just copy my thingee above this and you'll see me with someone 20 years my junior. Don't tell my husband. Oh hahahaha! Cathy l.

whyamihere

Here you go Mumsy.............

alt

I actually prefer someone 35+. Always have and always will. Men in their 40's are just way HOT!

Crumpet

Nope - its illegal anyway!

However I have dated 20 years and upwards my senior. My second boyfriend was 39 (well thats what he admitted to) and I was 15. My ing parents weren't too happy about that and sent me away. Meanwhile the guy mysteriously left town...

I would say many girls looking for someone older are looking for a "daddy" style relationship. My last partner was nearly ten years older but what attracted me a great deal was that he could take over being my daddy who I missed. But that kind of relationship becomes really unequal and both parties get tired of little girl misbehaving and daddy punishing. I dont mean sexually, just its hard work and not necessarily healthy. I've grown up a lot though through the daddy nurturing and am looking at a more equal partnership now.

Like Shania said "Man, I feel like a woman tonight". Honestly I never did until very very recently - I was just playing at being a woman.

So Wanderer - just be sure that you are comfortable with playing daddy. But if you want something more equal maybe this should just be a casual flingette.

Mulan

My 40 year old pioneer partner (1993) married the 20 year old son of one of our friends. I tried my best to talk her out of it. To no avail, they got married, by a judge, no one else would do it, she quit pioneering, and the marriage lasted about 10 years total. The last several they lived together but were estranged.

In the end, he was not grown up yet and she was getting old.

If the reverse were the case, male to female, I would still say to think long and thoroughly. 20 is terribly young, especially to focus on an older man, no matter how great he is.

Juni said it all. I could never be attracted seriously to someone the age of my kids. Of course you can be attracted, but just don't act on it.

10 years ago, when I was slim and 50, I had lots of guys in their 30's hitting on me, when I traveled for work. I asked one, who notoriously hooked up with older women, why he did that. He shrugged his shoulders, so I asked if he was close to his mother............he had a horrified look on his face and said he was very close to her, but it was like it had just occurred to him that I was her age.

I asked if older women were safe because they couldn't get pregnant. He said that was a real possibility. He was very attractive and I was extremely flattered, but he was a cad, with a lovely wife and two little boys.

RichieRich

I consistently date people about 5 years older than me. The biggest gap was 9 years, and it was phenomenal.

Age doesn't matter when it's the right person.

Hell, Crumpet will prob. be 35 before I get to meet her...

RubaDub

I would have a really difficult time with someone 20 years my junior.

... unless she was really big on top.

Rub a Dub

Nope, I like older men.
Lola

Considering you would be dating a 3 year old, I can see why. Warlock

Can You See Yourself With Someone Nearly 20 Years Your Junior?

jaguarbass

HadEnuf

whyamihere

Crumpet

Mulan

RichieRich

RubaDub

unbeliever

lola28

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