People On This Board Have Feelings! (page 5)

truthsearcher

One more thing: I think it is important to remember that Witnesses are now where you used to be, and for those who haven't been Witnesses "but for the grace of God, there go I". In other words, it could easily be me who is trapped in a cult, so let's show some compassion!

greendawn

Of course, if someone acts trollish or continues to be disrespectful toward the group, we must admonish that one in the spirit of love

It sounds so awkward and watchtoweresque LOL (Minimus I hope you won't take this seriously)

The JW leadership isn't looking out for their member's best interests and for the most part active witnesses are just misguided. It doesn't make them stupid for belonging to a religion. Just misguided.

That is the essence of the matter so many JWs are simply misguided individuals who seriously believe that by following the FDS instructions they are doing what is morally right as desired and directed by God.

minimus

Greendawn, I was purposely kidding.

LeslieV

I guess I take what everyone says with a grain of salt.

This is a recovery board, so everyone here is in different phases of recovery. Anger is one phase. That is why sometimes individuals do not think about what they are saying. I don't think most purposely try to be mean..they are just pissed off. If you read these angry posters posts after time goes by, I think you will be surpised how they have mellowed out. Of course, there are those that will be pissed off for life, for those posters if they stay that way, they will never be healthy. JMO

Leslie

SnakesInTheTower

lisa...

makes me sad too...it is not that they want to throw me under the bus...but if you were a dub, wouldnt you do what "mother" said? Shun people like myself? I know I did.

Just because my eyes have been opened to the truth about the "truth" does not mean their eyes have. I wont ever go back in as deep as I did before (MS, elder, pioneer, etc...all out for me.. I'm done with that). No, I am going to end up more like people I observe attending other churches (and by their own accounts) for social purposes. I want to maintain friendships that may have started by being JWs together, but continued because we are genuine friends, not just because we are JW. JWs are forced by the cult to shun those who have doubts, get D/f, choose to D/a, etc. I don't consider it being loyal to my friends by forcing them to take the cult's stand. Better to keep my mouth shut, but keep aware of cracks in their armor, just as cracks appeared in mine over the years. Maybe they want to leave also but it is fear of losing their friends and family that keep them from leaving....hmmm? And when theychoose it is time to leave, I will be there for them....and so will all of you here, right?

Some here may not like how I am proceeding with the fade...some may chew me out (dawg, where are you dude?), some may call me a hypocrite. Others are in the same boat about family especially, but friends too and understand my situation and feelings.

I appreciate your sentiments Lisa.....and appreciate that you expressed them in the usual JWD nonjudgemental way. that is true friendship.

SnakesInTheTower ("there, but not there" Sheep Class)

TheListener

Good thread.

Sankes, there is no perfect way to leave the WT. Do it in your own way and in your own time. Opinions are like &*!holes, everyone has one - and they all stink.

Para,

Perhaps your wife just needs some time to digest what she has read and seen. It is very upsetting to our brains when we're confronted with facts different from what we'd like to believe.

flipper

Snakes, having been raised in the witnesses, I totally understand your take of fading carefully, as you want to try to hang onto some relationships with friends who are witnesses. I have some family who won't acknowledge me, (older self righteous ex bethel elder) and (Ex gilead graduate older sister) but my parents and another sister do talk with me still and care. Am still working on my daughters 20 and 19, they won't have much to do with me, but I keep trying. But I feel a lot of support and strength from this jwd site. You can rest assured my friend, Snakes, I'll continue to support you, as Mrs. Flipper and I will do to anybody else who needs a hearing ear. That's what we're all here for hopefully, to help and care. We didn't get that in the org

nvrgnbk

so let's show some compassion!

Wise and thoughtful.

lisavegas420

I appreciate your sentiments Lisa.....and appreciate that you expressed them in the usual JWD nonjudgemental way. that is true friendship.

I'm glad you took it the way it intended was, Snakes. I understand that each person has to do what is best for them. It does make me feel better knowing you, and all JWD'ers have a network of friends to turn to. When I left 20+years ago, I was all alone...flopping around like a fish out of water.

lisa

minimus

Having the internet makes wanting to ever go back to the Org. that much harder.

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