I have tried to understand the type of people that I'm conversing with. When I try to communicate with Johnny, I recognize that all I'm going to get is angry verbal punches thrown at me. I will say my peace and recognize there's no use in trying to win an argument. When I try to discuss something with Flipper, I know I can find a meeting of the minds. When I respond to Onacruse, I know that you have to think like a chess player because he doesn't always spell out his opinion right away but will ask you for your opinion and then try to pull your view apart. When I deal with you, Hillary, I recognize the viewpoint you have of yourself vs. most others here and factor that in.
To try to "debate" you or anyone else is sometimes, (a) boring, (b) unnecessary or (c) counter-productive.
There are very few times I see the need to "debate" with another. Once I express my personal experiences, my views, and my conclusions, I do not feel I must have anyone else's validation. If they think I'm a dumbass for it, so be it. No one here is all that anything.....and if we need this or any other discussion board to feel better about ourselves, well, that's just too bad.