Caedes, you asked if your question was too difficult. Meaning this one?
Snowbird,
If your god personally asked you to commit murder, would you do so?
Assuming that you were as sure that it was god asking you as you are of your faith. Let's also assume that it was someone guilty of immorality, adultery for instance.
When God kills, personally or by proxy, I wouldn't call it murder.
If I knew beyond a shadow of doubt - as the Israelite judges would have known - that it was God giving the instructions to kill, I don't think I would have a problem carrying out those instructions.
However, I have good reason to believe, thankfully, that it won't ever come to that.
Sylvia