I don't think you are for real because I don't think anyone can be that stupid or that blind. I call TROLL.I really think this person is an active JW troll. If you read through this thread she is simply spouting all the JW rubbish all the time and is NOT genuinely questioning at all. This is my opinion.
I'm not but I think I let myself get into a defending the faith position because of saying I was thinking of going back
I have been researching a lot in recent weeks inc JW's, I suppose I should take it as a complement that I sound enough like one to be accused of being a troll. I am honestly not a troll but I might be a cookoo in the nest because of thinking of going back, although my sister did say still active witnesses came on here so I was interested.
reniaa
Thinking of becoming a Witness again and my reasons for doing so :(
by reniaa 383 Replies latest jw experiences
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reniaa
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ex-nj-jw
One more thing, I didn't assume that it was casual sex with you and the bf my response about birth control was in direct resonse to you
you no longer have a choice about sex with men I find, they tend to see it as a right to "Try before they buy" attitude to commitment, and if i'm then left holding the baby (literatually in my case) with only child support to try and get from him, is it really my fault? surely some blame can be placed at this "free and easy worlds" door?
Once again you do have many choices - there are a million different types of birth control and as a last resort keep you legs closed and your panties on. If you don't want a "test drive" fine but don't blame other's because you do have a choice.
I think a test drive is very important - what if you don't and then you find out after you are married that you are not compatible sexually? Then you are stuck in a sexless miserable marraige. But again that is certainly a personal decision, just don't say you don't have a choice.
nj
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reniaa
I think a test drive is very important - what if you don't and then you find out after you are married that you are not compatible sexually? Then you are stuck in a sexless miserable marraige. But again that is certainly a personal decision, just don't say you don't have a choice.
nj
This would be true if you assume sexual compatibility stays the same as when you are first together. And I would also say sexual compatibility is only one aspect of how relationships survive and are strong.
I would say I made same mistake a lot do and mistaking rush of lust in a partner for love and commit to soon, started thinking happy families then have them quickly go off you after year to 2 years together.
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mrsjones5
Maybe I'm out of the norm, had sex with my soon to be hubby on the second date, moved him in to my apartment after dating only 2 months, lived together for 11 months before getting married, had first kid 18 months after getting hitched, we've been married over 15 years now and still going strong (in bed and out of bed). And guess what? I was raised in the bOrg, left in my early 20's and never went back and lordy lordy my hubby is a "worldy" guy.
There are good and bad people in the bOrg and outside the bOrg, it's up to you who you want to deal with.
Josie
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jambon1
Welcome! "Warm hearted witnesses"? They believe that 6 billion people deserve to die so that THEY can enjoy a 'paradise earth'. Doesn't sound too warm hearted to me. In fact, it sounds selfish in the extreem. It's sad that you have had so many negative experiences in the world. Personally, I found better friends in the world. However, you must decide what is right for you. You will always be welcome to share your experiences here. Stay & learn! Best wishes, J.
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calico
but I also know there are a lot more of the alternative to these loving, charitable people :(
You sure have a dim view of the human race--you need to get out there and meet people!
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ex-nj-jw
Okay, we've gone a little off topic but I'll answer anyway.
This would be true if you assume sexual compatibility stays the same as when you are first together. And I would also say sexual compatibility is only one aspect of how relationships survive and are strong.
Sexual compatibility does stay the same what changes is maybe how often or trying new things. I think you maybe referring to a marraige where the sex stops for whatever reason. That doesn't mean you are not compatible anymore just means that for whatever reason one of the partners has lost interest and if you have any interest in saving your marraige you'll find out why and fix it.
What if your partner make some weird noise during sex or just does things that irritates you to no end?
Oh yeah things can cool off but it's up to the couple to keep it interesting and try new thing to keep it spicy. Now if you marry someone and don't test drive how do you know if that person has an interest in trying new things or keeping the spice in the relationship? Maybe that person wants to only do missionary position and you just can have an orgasm in the missionary position what then. If you find out after the fact this person is a total dud or can't even get it up then it's too late.
Sex is one aspect but it is a very BIG aspect to having a happy marraige. I've been married to my husband for almost 22 years and we've had our share of problems, but sex was never one of them!
nj
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reniaa
Maybe I'm out of the norm, had sex with my soon to be hubby on the second date, moved him in to my apartment after dating only 2 months, lived together for 11 months before getting married, had first kid 18 months after getting hitched, we've been married over 15 years now and still going strong
Josie
I wish :) ..... I guess I do feel guilty thinking I could have made better choices, Is it that word that witnesses never use.. some people are Lucky some are not so lucky in relationships.
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Sirona
Reniaa is either still a JW or just here to try and influence us to go back (or not leave)
Check out what else she's been saying on this forum (apart from all the stuff on this thread):
First, she DISCOURAGES people from "Deconverting" their JW loved ones or relatives:
http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/20/152740/2829061/post.ashx#2829061
Ask youself one question....Can you love her if she stays a witness?That is the important one because no relationship even with a weak JW will last if you go into thinking "well hey shes a Witness but I can change her" or "she's weak enough to deconvert"
http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/7/154612/2829214/post.ashx#2829214
I don't agree with the second posters advice at all, If your father has come to you out of love then thats what you should give him back, to use it as an opportunity to try and deconvert him would make you as bad as what you hate in the witnessesAlso, constant PRO JW comments. Does this tell you that this person has been "out" for 10 years living in the world?
Regarding baptism questions http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/7/154590/2828686/post.ashx#2828686
From what I remember it's not a quiz its more of an informal study were they just go over everything you learned and see if you are happy and ready, I think they just prefer you to be honest with what you want and your answersAbout whether JWs "witchhunt" to DF exMembers
http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/12/154274/2826528/post.ashx#2826528
hmmm, I'm a 3rd generation JW and have been inactive for 10 years, nothing like this has happenned to me and I have to say it doesn't sound like anything they would do, I've certainly never heard of anything like this in the 20 so years i was in JW's before I became inactive.Erm how do we know this is a true story or one just to incite us?
On a thread where people were talking about all the wonderful things they gained from leaving the JWs: http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/7/154404/2827535/post.ashx#2827535
I'm sorry but atm I think I've lost more than I've gained after 10 years away, there is no utopia outside of JW's it's a hard world and in looking at other faiths and a lot of them exhibit same failings as witnesses that alot have mentioned so far :(Add to that the fact that this person ignores all evidence against the JWs or the Organisation.
We are wasting our time on this thread folks.
Sirona