Oompa,
Allow me to elaborate a little bit on the nature and structure of deception. How did deception get started?
Notice how the insertion of just one word (the word not) made it seem like God said the opposite of what he really said. After that, deception and capture of the subject (Eve) was easy.
The root of all deception is the anthithsis of the word of God. Once the word of God has been perverted, it is easy to appear to destroy it. This is why I have found it extremely helpful to make sure whether or not what someone says is the word of God, really is what He said. It saves a lot of time in chasing down strawmen.
All modern translations are based on the utterly perverted works of Wescott and Hort. You'll find this in the forward of the New World translation. Perhaps some might find it enlightening to googe those two men and find out about their unbelief concerning the foundations of Christianity and their deep involvement in the occult.
Personally, I only accept the King James Version as an accurate reflection of the preserved word of God. It is based on the Textus Receptus, which is in agreement with between 95 and 99% of all ancient manuscripts.
Having said that lets look at the scriptures you cite:
Duet. 21: 10 When thou goest forth to war against thine enemies, and the LORD thy God hath delivered them into thine hands, and thou hast taken them captive, 11 And seest among the captives a beautiful woman, and hast a desire unto her, that thou wouldest have her to thy wife; 12 Then thou shalt bring her home to thine house; and she shall shave her head, and pare F67 her nails; 13 And she shall put the raiment of her captivity from off her, and shall remain in thine house, and bewail her father and her mother a full month: and after that thou shalt go in unto her, and be her husband, and she shall be thy wife. 14 And it shall be, if thou have no delight in her, then thou shalt let her go whither she will; but thou shalt not sell her at all for money, thou shalt not make merchandise of her, because thou hast humbled her.
Here is is clear that these stipulations were regarding the taking of one of these women as a wife.
Biblical Commentary:
According to the war customs of all ancient nations, a female captive became the slave of the victor, who had the sole and unchallengeable control of right to her person. Moses improved this existing usage by special regulations on the subject. He enacted that, in the event that her master was captivated by her beauty and contemplated a marriage with her, a month should be allowed to elapse, during which her perturbed feelings might be calmed, her mind reconciled to her altered condition, and she might bewail the loss of her parents, now to her the same as dead. A month was the usual period of mourning with the Jews, and the circumstances mentioned here were the signs of grief--the shaving of the head, the allowing the nails to grow uncut, the putting off her gorgeous dress in which ladies, on the eve of being captured, arrayed themselves to be the more attractive to their captors. The delay was full of humanity and kindness to the female slave, as well as a prudential measure to try the strength of her master's affections. If his love should afterwards cool and he become indifferent to her person, he was not to lord it over her, neither to sell her in the slave market, nor retain her in a subordinate condition in his house; but she was to be free to go where her inclinations led her.
I guess the root of my argument here is not with your indignation with the providing of supposed rape victims; but rather with your quotation of "hath God said".