@digderidoo:
I think I am with you on this one. I consider myself an athiest. I have no problem with someone being gay, and no agenda. I have a gay cousin (he is atheist).
But I have often scratched my head at those that claim to be Christian and gay at the same time. It just seems like a square circle to me. Unless, of course, you redefine Christianity - unless you remove most of the New Testiment from your theology. That is, as you noted, if you are going to condemn Paul for what is written in 1 Corinthians, and reject him on the grounds that he is out of touch with "the times", then you might as well remove him completely. You can't have it both ways, as you say. Or at least you end up giving up the idea of Biblical inspiration and inerrancy.
MMM