by oompa 83 Replies latest jw friends
You girls need to get off his back. Every man isn't an a**shole, some really try. Look what Oompa is up against trying to keep his woman.
I love you, Dinah, but I don't agree. A man who is really trying will not be making sexual remarks to ladies on an internet forum. He needs to get back to the doctor, back on his meds and make decisions in a more sober frame of mind. His wife may be a jw: that doesn't mean it's okay to throw loving concern for her out the window and walk all over her heart.
and what a stupid name for a thread.....no the advice is not funny...and neither is basically getting caught by your wife...only thing worse for me would be getting caught on my apostaphone in my truck at 2:00 am........because she would not catch playboy oompa in bed with an apostbabe....just have never done that...or even tried to....
Oompa,
I know you are not like that. Don't pay attention to people here who get all "moral" on you. You have morals. And don't pay attention to bitter women.
Dinah, I'm not bitter. I am also not going to encourage Oompa. He's being pretty wreckless. No one said he has no morals. He needs to pull himself together. If he's on a manic high, he will mess up his life. Mania is not a harmless high. It's a very serious mental illness. I have family members with bipolar disorder. I love them. I would never encourage them to enjoy the mania. If you want to be a true friend to Oompa, encourage him to get back to the doctor, get treatment and be more sensible with his life in general. Spiraling out of control could cause him to lose very big if there is a divorce.
FHN is a good ,caring woman who happens to shoot from the hip. She cares and just tells it like is... Frank but
fair... calls it like she sees it .... Taking care and consideration is always good advice.
Caliber
Flyin'
He IS pulling himself together. Just because a female friend made him laugh.....
Wanting out of a marriage is not in itself a bad thing.
Mania is a funny thing. For those of us who live through it, it's usually when we are most "at ourself" at not bowing to others wishes.
Cut Oomps some slack. None of us can save the damn world.
I care and I will cut him some slack. But this is not the only thread I've on which I've seen worrisome symptoms from Oompa. I may sound mean, but I am being a friend. A friend doesn't stand by and let a friend with bipolar go around with no meds and do wreckless things without saying something. If I was on a manic wave, I know my friends would have the guts to say something to me. And if they didn't, when I climbed out of the rubble, I'd pretty pissed at them for not saying something to me or trying to help.
This is more than a harmless, funny conversation on IM and snorting beer.
I've been bi-polar without meds for years
The meds make you feel DEAD. Yes, it helps with the moods swings, but who wants to be stuck on "Zombie"?
I've been bi-polar without meds for years
That works okay for some, Dinah. But bipolar illness runs along a spectrum and no two people are exactly alike.My brother in law gets very moody, irritable and has rages. He also flirts shamelessly in the most inappropriate situations and has hurt my sister deeply at times. Then there is a friend of mine who was out of control and gambled the house, retirement fund and cars into hopeless hock. And one friend who dearly loved his wife but ended up so out there with the women that it eventually ruined his marriage. He never had an affair, but he made his wife feel horrible. My sister in law has to take her meds, if not she is delusional within hours and must be hospitalized. I know of a worse situation, but I cannot discuss it here on JWD. I can say that the results were tragic and the family is still in smoking ruins and trying to recover.
News flash: I'm bipolar as well. Being unmedicated as a bipolar is reckless, dangerous and irresponsible. Both FHN and I gave sound advice and called it like we saw it. Sometimes caring for someone means not letting them get away with murder. The longer oompa is off his meds the crazier he will get, this may amuse some, but will ultimately hurt oompa and his family.
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