Well I have been pretty much open about it here, I don't know why you would have to read between the lines, but perhaps you didn't get a chance to read some of my earlier posts?
Or were you just joking when you mentioned having the hunch?
At risk - I dare a discussion of the gay lifestyle/human nature.
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Junction-Guy
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Junction-Guy
3 pages, but who is keeping count? lol
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scotsman
Or were you just joking when you mentioned having the hunch?
yup.
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Junction-Guy
Well I kind of thought you were, but it is hard to say who is reading my posts and knows what I have been posting.
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AK - Jeff
My use of 'lifestyle' was less than fitting. I kind of know that, but just didn't have a substitutionary term to replace it with.
Perhaps I should have said simply "Gay Life".
I have appreciated the comments made here. Respectful and kind. That was kind of the hope/intention of the thread. A fair and kind dialog on the matter of gay life.
As far as commenting on, or agreeing/disagreeing with this moderator - never let that be an issue. I am the same now as always. Only severe violation of rules, or course rudeness that injures or attacks others will raise my ire - there is nothing to fear from little ole' me. I have not been appointed elder. I hope to always act with kindness - though that does not assure that I will always be liked. But I hope no one dislikes me due to a small listing below my name that simply means that I am involved in trying to actively manage a very busy forum fairly.
Unfortunately, due to a crazy work-schedule, I must retire to get some sleep. I shall check in about 0300 to see if other comments have been added. I have thoroughly enjoyed the comments made so far.
Jeff
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Junction-Guy
I wasn't even aware you are a moderator. Get some rest.
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Anti-Christ
I think Primitive Dave has some good and interesting points. I also at a young age knew my sexual orientation, I was about 8 also when I started to notice older women (There was this one 16 old girl on my bus, man she was hot) and all of the gay people I know say the same, they were very young when they started to now their orientation. I believe it is important to address these issues early on in a person's life, if not they may feel very wrong with who they are. I find all this fear very damaging for the development of our society. I think that if you believe that being gay is a choice then that means being heterosexual is a choice and trust me I really can not imagine myself with an other man.
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Junction-Guy
I don't necessarily believe it is a choice, but I don't believe it is a given either. I too had many crushes on older women when I was younger, they waned, then they returned again in early adulthood. I believe that sexuality is fluidic and can be adaptable to a certain point.
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BizzyBee
I believe it is important to address these issues early on in a person's life, if not they may feel very wrong with who they are. I find all this fear very damaging for the development of our society.
Adolescence, pre- and post- puberty have always been fraught with excitement, fear, guilt, and insecurity. And that's just the parents! Seriously, isn't that, in a way, just part of the fun? Why pathologize a normal, natural part of life?
Young people have been surviving this universal experience, gay or straight, for eons. Yup, sometimes it is a rocky road, and a rockier road for some but I don't think anything is going to change that except letting kids know that they are loved unconditionally.
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Anti-Christ
I don't necessarily believe it is a choice, but I don't believe it is a given either. I too had many crushes on older women when I was younger, they waned, then they returned again in early adulthood. I believe that sexuality is fluidic and can be adaptable to a certain point.
Maybe you are just saying that because of your personal experience or maybe your are bi-sexual, just saying I don't really know you I can only know you from what I read in your post.
Adolescence, pre- and post- puberty have always been fraught with excitement, fear, guilt, and insecurity. And that's just the parents! Seriously, isn't that, in a way, just part of the fun? Why pathologize a normal, natural part of life?
I totally agree and that's the point we should not make children feel unatural towards a natural part of life, if we teach children about how natural it is to love someone of the opposite sex then it should also be taught that if you are attracted to the same sex it should be regarded as being as natural.