by sweet pea 139 Replies latest jw friends
I call bull$hit. Under any circumstance?? Ok your 4 year old walks on mommy and daddy doggie style, daddy what are you doing to mommy says the bewildered child? Oh I can't lie sweetest, I'm banging her silly. Honesty is NOT always the best policy boys.
First of all, I'll assume you're familiar with how to operate a door lock? Second of all, I'll assume you know how to say "We were doing something that only big people do, honey. I'll explain it when you're a little older."
I call bull$hit. Under any circumstance?? Ok your 4 year old walks on mommy and daddy doggie style, daddy what are you doing to mommy says the bewildered child?
That was one way me and your momma have fun. We were playing a game. No lie needed sweetie.
First of all, I'll assume you're familiar with how to operate a door lock?
When you have a four year old child? Are you crazy? Not unless there is someone older outside that door would I lock out a four year old child. That's just asking for trouble.
Geesh..don't do too much over analyzing about this. They're little kids. Weave your magic for them and make it special so that once they understand that Santa isn't 'real', the traditions and special times are set. Finding out Santa isn't real doesn't put you into therapy - I don't even recall when I found out so it wasn't all that big a deal obviously. To this day it isn't Santa I remember as a kid, but decorating the house, putting lights on the tree, having all the family around on Christmas day, lots of food, happiness...the presents..those are the things I remember now - not Santa. Let the kids use their own imagination in decorating or making up a Christmas card...I'm not big on the Santa's lap thing - but help them to understand why you put money in the Sally Ann pail, why some people pick a mitten to buy for a poor child or let them go to a tin can show to understand that Christmas isn't all about religion - it's about helping one another and learning from one another and cherishing one another. They'll go with the flow and you'll follow their lead...sammieswife.
Lying to your spouse about cheating on them doesn't put you into therapy either.
When you have a four year old child? Are you crazy? Not unless there is someone older outside that door would I lock out a four year old child. That's just asking for trouble.
So you'd leave the door open and invite them in? There's a such thing as baby monitors and hearing. Works wonders.
you are arguing with a strawman against sweetstuff's 'argument' JD.
you are arguing with a strawman against sweetstuff's 'argument' JD.
Where?
First of all, I'll assume you're familiar with how to operate a door lock? Second of all, I'll assume you know how to say "We were doing something that only big people do, honey. I'll explain it when you're a little older."
Door lock? Omg, what a great idea. Too bad people are human and can on occasion forget that little gadget at say 1am. Second, I've got a newsflash for you mister lawyer (in training), a child's inquisitory nature would outdo many a court session, sometimes the "simple" answer only leads to more.
And actually to say, I'll explain it later when you are older is avoiding (not the same as being honest and forthcoming) the question posed by the child. So, you're kid might grow up not to be a liar, but when they avoid telling you anything, don't be shocked. My point was this, to make absolute statements of what you would or would never do in a situation with which you've had no experience is hardly what I would call an educated statement.
And actually to say, I'll explain it later when you are older is avoiding (not the same as being honest and forthcoming) the question posed by the child. So, you're kid might grow up not to be a liar, but when they avoid telling you anything, don't be shocked. My point was this, to make absolute statements of what you would or would never do in a situation with which you've had no experience is hardly what I would call an educated statement.
Why are you equating being honest with being forthcoming? Being honest means not lying or misrepresenting things. Are you really incapable of satisfying a child's curiosity without lying and misrepresentation? Is that what you're saying?
