Wow. I really wish I had had Christmas as a kid. I guess I really missed something special.
Santa & Kids - To Lie or Not To Lie?
by sweet pea 139 Replies latest jw friends
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mrsjones5
Wow. I really wish I had had Christmas as a kid. I guess I really missed something special.
It's never too late Burns.
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beksbks
Hehe I just called my 21 yr old son. I said "Babe, were you traumatized when you found out that there was no Santa?" He laughed like "what the heck is wrong with you mom?" Hehe.
I'm telling you Doe, it's not even like you "lie" to them. You just start putting stuff out from Santa from their first Christmas, and it's just sort of a given. By the time they are 4, or 5, they get a clue that you and Santa have the same writing, or something and it just falls away naturally.
Fantasy and storytelling, are good things. It's like exercise for young brains. Builds broader thinkers, and gives them something else to wonder on.
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beksbks
I wish I had too!!!! Burn you're still a kid! I hope you celebrate now??
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Cheetos
Oh for hell sakes, it's not a matter of beliving that Santa real, it is for the kids, and it is a matter of making a good memories for them when they are little kids, do you really think your kids will fault you latter in life for doing the Santa thing with them and having fun with them, a I don't think so. So Marry Christmas and have a happy new year, and enjoy your children while you have them when their young and while they are babies this time only comes around once.
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AudeSapere
Maybe think of it like a happy play that most people act in for a month or so.
While I don't like lying to kids, neither do I want to ruin the magical moments either.
Keep it balanced and let them enjoy the lights, sights and sounds as much as you do.
Santa Claus: Good. Dampen Christmas Spirit: Bad.
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beksbks
Ok, so I am having fun with this, pardon if any are taking it very serious. I just talked to my 23 yr old daughter, and she had basically the same reaction as the son, laughter. She added "It wasn't a big deal, it's not like I had much of my life invested in Santa"
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sweet pea
beks - that's a classic!! Made me laugh out loud.
Aude - like your illustration - you've been working on them, now haven't you?
John Doe - me thinks you're taking this far too seriously.
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John Doe
Ok, so I am having fun with this, pardon if any are taking it very serious. I just talked to my 23 yr old daughter, and she had basically the same reaction as the son, laughter. She added "It wasn't a big deal, it's not like I had much of my life invested in Santa"
So, as long as the person doesn't care and as long as they don't rely on your lie, honesty is unimportant?
I just can't agree with you folks. Honesty is a BIG DEAL. My question is, if it's ok to lie to your kids for years, what else is it ok to lie about? The truth is not always pretty, flashy, or glamorous, but it is the most precious thing a person can have.
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mrsjones5
I just can't agree with you folks.
Fine, then don't agree. I nor do anyone else on this topic needs your agreement as to how to raise kids.
I love Santa, have loved Santa since before I left the bOrg. My kids, they love Santa too. My older kids have outgrown Santa and that's fine too. Have they been damaged? No. Are they well adjusted kids. Yep. Do they lie? Yep, about as much as any other kids, mostly not to disappoint me. Do they link the myth of Sante to lying? Nope, it's altogether different. Do I expected my kids to me honest with me? Yep. Am I as honest as possible (age appropriately) with my kids? Yep, kids sometimes don't need the whole truth, depending on age they might not be ready to handle certain information.