Letting go, does it really ever happen as an X- JW? (page 2)

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(((Restrangled)))................................

Clint Eastwood ...OUTLAW

Big Tex

I left in 1989, before Al Gore invented the Internet. There was no way to know that I wasn't the only one. As a result, it took me nearly 10 years to let it go. Or so I thought.

In early 2002, I discovered this board. This board helped me get my wife out, who was still a rabid JW. I also discovered, through over 12,000 posts, that I had more to say about Jehovah's Witnesses than I thought.

Leaving this cult takes time. Everybody does it in their own speed.

Just relax. There's no time limit.

JWdaughter

OMG, when I read someone had 12000 posts, I thought THAT'S crazy, how could you get that many? THen I realized how many I have. Jesus. I have spent way too much of my life here!!

We do need to get out more, don't you think?

restrangled

Leaving this cult takes time. Everybody does it in their own speed.

Damn, sometimes it feels like going backwards while a parent is alive.

r.

purplesofa

I have reached plateaus and thought I would not post here anymore

I just was planning on doing it.

and I realized there was more.

I used to feel badly for still needing/wanting to post here

I don't kick myself for it anymore.

Most here are saner than alot of people I meet in person, we think about things more deeply.

Or maybe I just don't know how to get that info out of people in real life.

Plus, some of us just like the internet!

I don't say all that I want to say, even after all this time, and I am amazed still at what I learn here

from others, about others and myself.

purps

restrangled

Purps: My fellow friend and lover of purple.

r.

Big Tex

OMG, when I read someone had 12000 posts, I thought THAT'S crazy, how could you get that many?

Believe me, sometimes I don't know myself!

And if you want to know something funny, Minimus and I joined within a week of each other. Check out his posts, he's much more loquacious than me.

SnakesInTheTower

restrangled...I dont get sick of you...((restrangled)).

Get over being a dub?...nah... get through it?...yeah.

It is harder when one has a close relative that is an active JW. My mom is still loyal to the Organization™ Sometimes, I don't know what to say to her anymore. I love my mom dearly; she says she won't shun me. We talk about every 7-10 days on the phone. We live several states apart. It would be more difficult for both of us if we lived in the same town, especially if she were here, where I grew up in the Truth™. I last seen her last summer when she came up for the district convention. I have not been to see her in over a year, since she and my stepdad moved to their new place.

As long as mom is alive I will have to put up with some of the JW stuff. She is 65 and in reasonably good health. I hope for everyone's sake she has a long and healthy life. I am saddened that she has chosen to use her retirement years to "pioneer" (in actuality though not on paper). Her non-JW husband quietly resents the time she spends away from him door knocking. He said he knew it when she married her, though I doubt he knew the extent it would affect them both. He confides in his brother-in-law (my mom's brother) but otherwise keeps it to himself. He and I have talked on vacation, but mom overheard us and it really tore our relationship up for awhile.

I thought I would stop going to ex-JW sites when JWD closed, but of course (and thankfully for my sake I think), it did not. I pop in at JWS and other ex-JW sites occasionally. I am stalled in my progress out of the Borg. I think I will always need the social support of others who have "been there, done that" regarding leaving the JW cult.

And for that support I am very glad.

Snakes ()

restrangled

Thanks Snakes,

I so appreciate what you said,....my mom is 76 and is going to be pioneering next month...they can't ever relax...I am glad you have the distance between you and your mom. It's hard being 2 blocks apart.

I get more exposure to this the JW religion, than I want. I hate to see her under this kind of pressure at her age, but it just keeps eating at her.

Probably like what I'm complaining about here. Once in, it seems you can never leave....... mentally. (What was that song?....You can check in but never leave!)

Thanks again Snakes, your support is much appreciated and also to all those who took the time to respond!

r.

dinah

I think we can just talk and know alot of what we need to say is understood. We all grew up dealing with the same crap, or if we joined later we understand the crap.

You let go of the dogma, the rule of the GB's iron fist. You don't let go of the people who were there with you.

I can remember when I was a little kid, hearing about the whole worldwide "brothers and sisters". I thought that was sooooo cool. I could go anywhere and find love. I think the rank and file have that. The (former) elders I've met here have that, couldn't stomach the reality and walked away.

I think just because you "get over it" you don't have to throw the babies out with the bathwater.

Letting go, does it really ever happen as an X- JW?

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