Did You/ Do You Believe Marriages Are Supposed To Be Forever?

by minimus 63 Replies latest social relationships

  • WTWizard
    WTWizard

    Marriages can in fact last forever. However, to do that, the stagnation traps that plague so many of them have to go. Between stagnation traps at work and regulations preventing couples from being free to express their feelings toward one another, marriages are doomed to fall apart. They get in ruts, which is the root of most marital trouble. Once they get in ruts, it is no longer exciting, and they start arguing about petty things. Eventually, adultery results or differences that are not repairable come up.

    However, if this stagnation is eliminated, the marriages are no longer prone to get stuck in ruts. If it remains exciting throughout life, such differences will not come up. (Or if they do, they are easy to settle.) Money would be abundant, and work exciting (eliminating money arguments). And the excitement remains--adultery usually happens when one or both partners get stuck in ruts, and if those ruts are not there, most adultery will not happen.

    I might add that Jehovah's Witlesses have the highest stagnation of any major group I have seen. They have crap jobs (even worse than the ones that most people have). They make pxxx poor wages. They waste lots of time in field circus, where intimacy is banned. They waste a lot of time presenting the same littera-trash at each door, when anyone is home (and it is a carbon copy presentation at every door). They are regulated as to what they can and cannot do in bed, plus their time is for field circus or studying the Washtowel or Kingdumb Misery. This is adultery waiting to happen.

  • mouthy
  • minimus
    minimus

    It is easy to get bored in relationships plus many people like variety. Perhaps those that have an "open relationship" are happier. They claim love for one another, abide by some consensual rules and each do their thing.

  • chickpea
    chickpea

    my "marriage" is still intact contractually
    but long ago the relationship ceased to
    be anything but cordial friendship
    because there are children still at home
    and assests to protect.....

    he has moved to another state
    to secure employment in order
    to pay down debt, and i have
    the last 2 teens still to launch....

    once both of those enumerated
    tasks ends, i suspect the contract
    will be voided....

    i will say now that i have in word
    and deed released him from expectations
    (true partnership, emotional attachment)
    we get along so much better....quite
    friendly indeed.... it just got too hard
    being a cheerleader for a team that
    never took the field....

    bonnie raitt had it right...
    "i can't make you love me if you don't"
    it just gets too painful to live like that

  • minimus
    minimus

    So how does that affect your respective sex lives?

  • ColdRedRain
    ColdRedRain

    Yes, I do believe marriages should last forever. I also believe that you should marry the right woman or man, since that marriage is going to be forever and no smart person's going to touch a divorced man or woman with a 10 foot pole. As a rule of thumb, I myself wouldn't touch a divorcee with a ten foot pole because she could have entered the marriage with fairy tale like hopes and dreams, chased away husband in some way or simply not know how to be a part of a couple. However, there are exceptions to the rule, but I have to see evidence to make sure that the divorce was because her husband wasn't a real man or was a dumb schmuck with unrealistic hopes for marriage. I don't want somebody else's problems becoming mine. Sorry.

  • beksbks
    beksbks

    CRR,

    You started out pretty good, went downhill from "no smart person"

  • Finally-Free
    Finally-Free

    No worries for you CRR, no divorcee would touch someone as narrow minded as you with a 10 foot pole either.

    W

  • startingover
    startingover

    Ya gotta remember. When this whole marriage thing started people only lived 40 years. Nuf said.

  • blondie
    blondie

    I think if you know yourself well and they know themselves well, are mature and honest....there is a better chance. Marriage and life itself can only be lived a day at a time.

    The relationship of Jesus and his bride is said to be one of ruling over the earth as kings and priests but that is intended only to last 1,000 years. So their relationship is going to change. Will some of them resent having to turn rulership over to God?

    I know this doesn't make a lot of sense. I just don't think anyone can truly answer that question.

    Blondie (happily married 18 years out of 18)

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