My Wife is demanding that I stop coming to this board. (page 8)

Finally-Free

BTTT because I can't see the last post.

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I could understand her reactions better if you were a baptized dub who is fading/inactive. She would see this board and other websites critical of the JWs as the source for your doubts. My wife asked what "stuff" I had read and what websites I went to when we first got into my inactivity. I said it didn't matter what the source was if I was able to confirm the material presented.

But your case is different. You're not a JW, never have been one. You're willing to allow her to pursue her religious beliefs which is fine, especially knowing the issues with the religion of her choice.

But she is trying to impose her conscience (as trained by the WTS) on you. She's not supposed to go to these websites and has been indoctrintated to fear them, so she's trying to manipulate you to fear and avoid them as well.

To JWs this kind of website is "spiritual pornography", so beware if she plays that card and asks if you would give up Interet porn at her request, so why can't you give up "spiritual porn". The problem with that argument is that religious beliefs are not pornography. That's an illogical argument by the Society, but one that most dubs fell for.

You're going to have to stand up for your rights on this one. If you cave on this, she's going to expect you to fall in line with other of her Watchtower ideals over time. If she can't convert you through studies and meetings, she'll convert you through nagging. Nip it in the bud now, or you face being turned into a whipped dub husband later.

HappyGuy

The Watchtower cult is EXTREMELY dangerous. They will ruin your family and your life. I would not allow anyone I love to get within 1000 miles of those bastards. I would visit whoever is studying with the person I love and run them off.

As the head of the house I would make it crystal clear that no one in my house is having anything to do with those lying bastards.

I'm not trying to be rude but I don't see how if you claim to love someone you would not do everything in your power to keep that person out of the clutches of this twisted, sick, delusional cult.

lovelylil2

gary,

Sorry to hear about your wife troubles. I am getting in late on this topic but here are my 2 cents.

I left the org before my husband did. He was furious and threatened me with divorce. I stayed calm and reasured my love for him and told him if he decided to remain a witness then I would fully suppport his decision, but that I wanted to have a right to do as I saw fit with my new belief system. I assured him I would not share any "apostate" material with him and would not try to undermine his faith in any way.

The fact that he then saw me as a non threat to his remaining a witness, worked out well in my favor.

Eventually, he saw the BS behind the WT with his own eyes and left the org. Now, as far as your wife, no one can know for sure if she will ever leave the WT but what I would do if I were you is this;

1. let her know you love her no matter what. And that your leaving the WT does not mean you will EVER leave her.

2. Tell her you will continue to respect her decision to remain a JW but would like the same respect given to you in return

3. Agree to not discuss anything with her you learn on this site, or try to undermine her beliefs in anyway

4. tell her you will answer any Q's she asks but will not bring up the subject of religion otherwise.

And then tell her the society says that if an unbelieveing husband wishes to stay with his wife then the wife should be agreeable to this as long as he is not trying to destroy her faith in Jehovah....back this up with WT articles from the cd rom.

I feel bad you are going through this. I do think your wife is overreacting and treating you like a child instead of a grown up by threatening to cancel the internet, but you need to understand that she feels totally afraid and threatened right now. She may well feel that your next step will be out the door entirely. She needs you to remain calm and reasure her. Good luck, let us know how things turn out.

Lilly

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