by Scott77 50 Replies latest jw experiences
After reading this internet link below about the profoundly shocking, sadening and traumatic account of Mary Aguilar, an Ex-JW woman's systematic treatment and abuse, what do you think regarding the action her JW abusive husband, the congregational Elders, and finally, the WTS attitude when she finally reported the accident to them? Is there any related experienes that you might have come across?
http://www.lawenforcementtoday.com/blogs/view/306
Comes on.
Scott77
It never ceases to amaze me how a disfellowshipped person often continues to try to "please Jehovah" and not bring reproach on "Jehovah's organization." I still don't get the psychology behind that. I'm still technically a Dub and I couldn't give a rat's behind about making the borg look bad or pleasing the Israelite volcano-god. Apparently the cult mind control is so strong that when they tell you everything's your fault, you act in accord with that belief, even if the real you knows it isn't true.
Poor woman. Got herself reinstated only to get DFd again.
Witnesses get into the same mentality an abused child...Mom and Dad must not be exposed because the child really believes their world will crumble and they'll have no where else to go if they tell someone else.
Very sad.
Hello Mad Sweeney and mindmelda ,
Thanks for your comments. By the way, after reading the profoundly shocking, sadening and traumatic account of Mary Aguilar, an Ex-JW woman's systematic treatment and abuse, what do you think regarding the action her JW abusive husband, the congregational Elders, and later, the WTS attitude when she finally reported the accident to them? Is there any related experienes that you might have come across?
I have no personal experiences like this but then again, I've never been deep into the Dub gossip grapevine like many Dubs are. I'm sure there are folks at the hall who know exactly who hits his wife, who oogles little boys, and who is on 'private' reproof. Not me.
Domestic abuse is bad enough.
Brainwashing children to participate in the abuse of their mother is worse.
Having the tacit endorsement of these behaviours by a religious organization, whose representatives/authority figures blame the victim for the abuse, is downright evil.
By the way, after reading the profoundly shocking, sadening and traumatic account of Mary Aguilar, an Ex-JW woman's systematic treatment and abuse, what do you think regarding the action her JW abusive husband, the congregational Elders, and later, the WTS attitude when she finally reported the accident to them? Is there any related experienes that you might have come across?
From my own experience and those of others who have confided in me, I think the Watchtower is highly skilled at getting rid of battered wives. It's a cover up similar in size and scope to that of the pedophiles in the organization.
My ex sister in law's mother (a Witness married to a non-Witness) was abused by her alcoholic husband for years, in every way possible and she was encouraged by the elders to stay with him out of "respect for Jehovah's arrangement of marriage and headship".
The man was insane from alcohol abuse and finally also diagnosed with schizophrenia. He would hold her down and burn her with curling iron because he was paranoid and possessive, and when he'd see her get ready to go to the meetings by curling her hair, that's what he' do. The elders told her she was being persecuted for being faithful to Jehovah.
He was finally committed to a mental institution for some public acts of violent drunkeness and she was free of him but could have been much earlier if she'd not believed the advice of the elders.
I know that this kind of extreme abuse isn't excused as much by some elders now, but, if people in this religion were trained to actually think, no one with any sense or compassion would tell a woman to return to a man who was literally torturing her and endangering her life.
I'm afraid there IS such a thing as victim mentality.
If a stranger pounces at you on the street and takes your purse, that's one thing. If you keep going back again and again and again to a man WHOSE BEHAVIOR YOU KNOW AND CAN PREDICT, well that's your choice. "Poor me" doesn't work for me.
Predictable comments about how insensitive my views are just serve to perpetuate this kind of cycle.
Qullsky - What about fear? Those who are too afraid to leave because of threats on their lives if they do, or on their children's lives, or on their family's? Some people are completely isolated - which could be circumstantial or it could be something that an abuser has manipulated over time. Some people are simply so terrified of their abuser that they do not trust in law enforcement or some other agency to protect them.
Not only that, but self-confidence is often chipped away at gradually. Shock, shame, how could I not have seen this... all work to take away self-esteem as well. Once someone loses all esteem for themselves, they have a hard time thinking they deserve anything else - or even that they might find something else.
It might not work for you but can you truly say you understand something unless you've been there?
Now if you have been there, and this was your attitude in escaping, then well done.
But some people need a lot of help to put themselves back together, and thankfully there are people around who provide that.
Tammy
